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How to respond to a homophobic spouse?

Our daughter suspects she's a lesbian, but unfortunately my husband does not like the idea of that.

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Asked by SashaKrushnic at 2:06 AM on Jun. 13, 2013 in Teens (13-17)

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  • JanetMonroe1991

    Answer by JanetMonroe1991 at 4:14 PM on Jun. 18, 2013

  • Tough one. Has she told him also? If it came down to it personally I would side with my child even if it meant him moving out. What a terrible place to live if your dad constantly degraded you because of how you were born?! Children come first in my opinion good luck

    Answer by Beautiful_Mess at 12:26 PM on Jun. 14, 2013

  • You sound like you're doing all the right things. He might just need to be told that he needs to get over it, whatever his reasons.

    Answer by emma-s at 2:55 PM on Jun. 13, 2013

  • It's his daughter. If he thinks there's something "wrong" with her, remind him that she is a product of his DNA and perhaps HE is the defective one!!!

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 1:21 PM on Jun. 13, 2013

  • On what grounds does he disagree? Religious? If so, I don't know how you can give him another point of view.


    Answer by QuinnMae at 12:13 PM on Jun. 13, 2013

  • It's good to talk to him to find out why he thinks this way.

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 10:04 AM on Jun. 13, 2013

  • Tell him to shut his damn both. He's her dad and should love her for who she is not who he wants her to be.

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 9:05 AM on Jun. 13, 2013

  • What you said to her is what needed to be said, she will need both of her parents to support her.

    Answer by older at 6:51 AM on Jun. 13, 2013

  • Tell him it is not his place to agree or not, she is going to be who she is no matter what and is this worth loosing your daughter over? Nothing will change for this girl is she is, she will still be the daughter he has......

    Answer by older at 6:50 AM on Jun. 13, 2013

  • Not much you can do about how he feels. Didn't you know this about him already?


    Answer by louise2 at 6:49 AM on Jun. 13, 2013

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