My husband's aunt and uncle adopted a baby about 4 years ago, she is now sick, long story short, she needs a kidney transplant within the next 18 months. They asked anyone who was willing, to get tested (on their dime) and see if they were a match. My DH and MIL went and got tested right that week. I didn't want to. About two weeks later DH and the rest of the family guilted me into it. So I went. Guess what? I'm a match.
As soon as it was found that I'm a match, I started getting phone calls, emails, facebook messages about how great it is and how noble it is of me to donate. I haven't said yes yet, I said I needed to think it over.
And, honestly, I don't really want to. Not that I don't like this little girl or anything, or that her life isn't important. I'm just thinking long term, what if my kids needed one down the road, if it was my kid, I would do it in a heart beat.
The parents are offering for all medical bills to be covered by them, present and future (there is a contract involved) and 30K. Its not about the money for me. It seems like they could find someone else in the next year or so for that amount.
Anyway, I told my SIL, in confidence, that I'm not sure how I feel about it, and not sure if I'll do it. Now I'm getting phone calls and messages from family how I'm so heartless and calling me nasty names.
I'm not sure what to do. I still haven't made up my mind.
I feel like if I don't do this, I'll be shunned by the family, and afraid they won't find someone else.
Posting it to relationships, not sure where it fits
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