For father's day, my husband wanted an Otterbox for his iPhone or a new fishing rod. I decided to get him the fishing rod so my five year old and his seven year old decided to save up their allowance to buy him the otterbox. They get five dollars a week and I chipped in for my 18mo's share because she wanted to "buy daddy pwesent". My sister thinks I shouldn't have made them use their money to buy him a present. She thinks I should have either let the present I bought for him be from all of us or bought him something else from the girls. I don't think so. I didn't push them into buying him something. They wanted too. They did the same for me for mother's day. I am trying to teach them how to earn and save money for what they want and what they wanted was to buy daddy a nice present for father's day. She lets her kids save to buy themselves something but she just let her kids help pick out something for daddy and she paid for it.
Now, for stuff they need, like clothes and school lunch, I pay for that. I wouldn't expect them to. They save up money for when we go places like the zoo or Six Flags so they can buy a souvenir or for a toy or a book they want. I don't see what the harm is. So what if it's not for them? When we were kids, we saved our money for father's/mother's day and for their birthdays to buy our parents' presents. I don't know why she has forgotten that lesson.
Answer by tntmom1027 at 2:18 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
Answer by NotPanicking at 2:18 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
So you want to know who's right?
It all comes down to different parenting styles. At 5 and 7 I would be more apt to buy the gift and say it's from everyone or let them pick out a gift and I'll pay for it. As they get older, Say 10 and 8 I would let them pick out the present and pay for it themselves. That's how I feel about it. You might feel differently or wish to raise YOUR children differently that's YOU decision. No reason it should become a pissing match between you and others whether it's your sister, your mother, your uncle's grandaughter's baby daddy, or whatever else.
Answer by KristiS11384 at 2:19 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 2:22 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
Answer by missanc at 2:34 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 2:46 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
Answer by gdiamante at 2:47 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
She hasn't forgotten that. she probably didn't like that lesson. She is not wrong the way she does it. You are not wrong the way you do it. it is just personal preference.
Answer by louise2 at 3:03 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
Answer by Ginger0104 at 3:08 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
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