My daughter is 43 yrs. old, a single Mom with one 17 yr. old son. She makes fairly good money as a car sales person but doesn't handle her money well. So therefore she is always "short" and borrowing a few buck or a lot of money like rent money, or whatever. She did give us a large amount that she owed us this year, but then turned around a month later broke again. I have one other married daughter who also helps her, but not as often. She lies to me and her sister about things to make us feel sorry for her and help her. We love her but feel used to the hilt, we want to have a serious talk and have some sort of contract as we feel this has gone on far to long now and we are so upset & used up. Anyone know of a contract thing like that? Any help would be appreciated..we have done counseling in the past, but the single daughter would not do an intervention, wouldn't hear of it..Thanks, Mom who wants to move away!Answer Question
What kind of contract? If she has given her word that she would pay you back and then broken her word, then breaking a contract with you won't matter much to her either. You either keep enabling her or you don't. Right now it's your decision. If she is living bare bones then I can understand feeling like you need to help. If she has expenses that she could cut that would make the difference of paying bills or not, then she needs to do the hard work and be a little uncomfortable to make ends meet. It's what responsible adults do.
Answer by QuinnMae at 6:03 PM on Jun. 14, 2013
an intervention for what... sucking at budgeting?? How about you just stop bailing her out... let her learn the hard way!!
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