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So how many times should i give this kid a warning?

to start with we live in an apartment complex. where we live there is a cluster of ten apartments then we have a strip of grass and there's another set of 10 apartments.

ok here's my problem i have been washing my by hand for the past two weeks, i hang them out on the lines in my somewhat backyard. there's a little boy from the other set of apartments who keeps playing around the wet clothes. i've caught him pulling the clothes off the line. twoday he was doing it again. i told him next time i'm marching him home and telling his mother. i've had with him!

there is only one place that is empty, every other apartment in my cluster has about 15 kids between all the 9 us ranging from 11 and under. i've only had to threaten to tell their parents once. and they stopped playing around the clothes. but this kid just won't stop.

he's 5yo and every single one of the kids around here can't stand him, they try to include him in their games, he tries to steal their balls or frisbees when they send it to him. he tells lies to the parents that aren't out there, (i'm normally inside because i'm doing laundry, the next door lady just had a baby, and another just had major surgery, another is also dealing with a newborn) but between four apartments there is usually about three adults are always outside.

but back to the question: this is his seventh warning, should i just keep warning him, or drag him home and let his mother (who i've met once) deal with him?

she's a single mother of three kids,7, 5, and 2yo

 
noel1978

Asked by noel1978 at 8:59 PM on Jun. 15, 2013 in General Parenting

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Answers (13)
  • should have done it after the first warning
    go to the mom
    doesn't matter what her marital status is or how many kids she has
    one of her children is a destructive snot
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 9:05 PM on Jun. 15, 2013

  • You told him if he does it again you are telling his mother. So do it. I would have done it after the 3rd time probably. He is 5 not 2 he knows what he is doing. If you don't follow through with your threat he is just going to keep doing it and walking all over you.
    tntmom1027

    Answer by tntmom1027 at 9:02 PM on Jun. 15, 2013

  • Never make a threat you don't fully intend to back up. If the kid does it again, march him home to his mother. What she does from there is up to her.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 9:05 PM on Jun. 15, 2013

  • You should have done it after the first warning. After 7 times of telling him, he has no reason to believe you and will continue to do it.
    cassie_kellison

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 9:10 PM on Jun. 15, 2013

  • You've given him six extra chances too many. Go see the mom NOW.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 9:38 PM on Jun. 15, 2013

  • You should have told his mom the second time he did it, not the seventh. You waited way too long.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:21 PM on Jun. 15, 2013

  • No more warnings march him over ther and tell mom you will lodge a complaint with the apartment manager if she does not get control of him.
    In my apartments we did not allow hanging clothes outside at all so if this is something yourapartment has put up for you to use, that is its purpose and should be respected. Otherwise all grounds are considered community grounds and anyone can go anywhere on the grounds and you maybe sol
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 9:43 PM on Jun. 15, 2013

  • if you told him "next time i'm marching him home" and telling his mother then that is EXACTLY what you should do... don't make empty threats... do what you say or don't say anything at all!!
    Crafty26

    Answer by Crafty26 at 9:24 PM on Jun. 15, 2013

  • You already warned him. You see him do it again. Go find his parents.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 7:37 AM on Jun. 16, 2013

  • He knows you're not going to follow through, because you haven't. You need to take him to his mother the very next time he does it. If she's never out there to supervise him, and she doesn't do anything after you tell her, then I'd start calling management and complaining.
    wendythewriter

    Answer by wendythewriter at 8:23 AM on Jun. 16, 2013

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