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How to decpline 5yr old twins boy & girl

Ok we've had this lazy babysitter for a while I just found out my kids are complete barbarians
My daughter has been better behaved but cries at the slightest things. My son has tantrums that are out of control. What do I do?!? I might switch the baby sitter

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Asked by Red1300 at 7:27 PM on Jun. 17, 2013 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Stop blaming the babysitter unless she's been the one literally raising your children, and re-evaluate your parenting.

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 7:30 PM on Jun. 17, 2013

  • How did you "just find out my kids are barbarians".. Any who, time to get rid of the lazy sitter and be a parent to your children. Tantrums are not tolerated, its time out for you buddy until you can use your words, same for the girl, thats a start.. Then go from their, find what works for them

    Answer by midnightmoma at 7:32 PM on Jun. 17, 2013

  • We all have our faults as parents.

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 7:36 PM on Jun. 17, 2013

  • Are they just being bad for the sitter or all the time? If it's the sitter, obviously it's up to you to keep her or not. But setting clear boundaries, expectations & consequences (good & bad) for the children is a must no matter who they are with. Telling your sitter what is tolerated & what isn't & how to best handle it will give her tools to deal with them if they misbehave. But be sure to include chances for her to reward them for being good.


    Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:37 PM on Jun. 17, 2013

  • They're misbehaving for the sitter? Tell her how to handle it, or find one who will. Let her know she can call you any time and you'll give your kids what-for.

    Answer by Ballad at 8:19 PM on Jun. 17, 2013

  • Where the hell have YOU been?

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 10:03 PM on Jun. 17, 2013

  • You just found out your kids are brats? At 5 years old? Do you not give a crap about your kids at all that it took you 5 years to notice it? About what you can do, try paying attention to your kids for once, that should make a vast difference.

    Answer by JanetMonroe1991 at 2:14 PM on Jun. 18, 2013

  • What you describe doesn't really sound like "complete barbarians." You may not have problem in your babysitter, but simply be dealing with having a pair of young human beings on your hands! If you normalize the situation instead of pathologizing it or deciding that someone is to blame for somehow ruining the kids, you might better be able to respond to what is in front of you (a 5 year old girl who gets upset & cries easily, and a five year old boy who has trouble regulating himself when he gets overwhelmed by very big feelings of frustration, disappointment or anger.)
    It is normal to feel frustrated, annoyed, critical & overwhelmed by your children's feelings & behavior when they're upset, but it doesn't mean something wrong is happening or they have behavioral problems. It means you're not coping well, for some valid reason. It's hard to stay internally regulated when you are overwhelmed or triggered, just as it is for kids.

    Answer by girlwithC at 3:09 PM on Jun. 18, 2013

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