Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

1 Bump

It's a pillowcase! With a nice pillow..

Our son is six years old. Tonight he freaked out, cuz I let his sister have my pillow. } we have two memory foam pillows thy both love,! } . Well he told me that he wasnt going to go to bed until I switched the pillows ( I forgot to put a pillow case on one, he wants the one with the pillowcase of course his sister has..) .. Why so picky? Why the fuss? ..

Answer Question

Asked by Anonymous at 12:58 AM on Jun. 18, 2013 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

Answers (3)
  • Sometimes kids just fuss for the sake of fussing. Or maybe the pillow felt strange to him, or had a smell he wasn't used to, or maybe he thought his sister was getting something he wasn't. Who knows?

    Answer by Ballad at 1:05 AM on Jun. 18, 2013

  • Because he's 6 years old, and it's a great way to stall bedtime and prevent his sister from getting something he wants.

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 1:30 AM on Jun. 18, 2013

  • It felt important. Sometimes kids attach their "big" feelings to a small issue, because it's safe, convenient & effective (gives them a good "pretext" for processing some distressing feelings.)
    There's a line in a Van Morrison song: "It's not why why why why why why why...It just IS."
    The times when I can be mindful of that orientation (accepting the moment for what it is & responding to it, rather than struggling against it for being wrong or not making sense or "shouldn't be happening" for some other reason), things tend to flow a LOT more for me.
    "Wow, you are really upset about this pillow" might be my response. (I guess the perspective is that I don't have to decide whether or not his feeling are valid--as in did something "wrong/unfair" happen or not, does something need to be "fixed"? And he doesn't have to be rescued from his upset OR from the situation. I can just accept it was upsetting, for some reason!)

    Answer by girlwithC at 6:12 AM on Jun. 18, 2013

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.