My recent husband has 3 children, all grown and quite kind, and he has a stepchild from a previous marriage (not his). She is self indulged, preens her self all the time, talks about herselfk, is snotty to her boyfriend and my adolescent sons, and has shown disrespect to me numerous times. Do I have to be a part of her life, or can I just excuse myself when she comes to visit. She is 23 and is always bringing up her Mom, the X wife. These things are not obvious because she is sly and manipulative.
Recently, she was upset with my husband because I listed my house for sale with a friend realtor. Her mom and her have a real estate. She was hot about not listing it with her, and her Mom, and might not be able to show it. I thought their was no reason to create animosity, so I called the Mother (x) and said that it was ok to show, need house sold. Well, now, I don't think the X should enter my home. Wheres the boundary
Answer by PartyGalAnne at 2:48 PM on Jun. 20, 2013
Answer by maecntpntz219 at 2:49 PM on Jun. 20, 2013
I would run these questions & ideas past your current husb. See how he feels about the whole thing. If he's understanding & OK w/ you being absent during her visits, then fine. Otherwise, you may have to suck it up & make the best of it. Hopefully she doesn't visit more often than once a week. As to the listing- if that property is in just your name, you are not obligated in any way to list w/ her. But now that you have, just remove any personal items & give them the amt. of time to sell it. If they don't sell it, then your friend gets the listing. At least you can say you tried.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 2:50 PM on Jun. 20, 2013
You don't have to be a part of her life if you don't want to. She is a part of your DH's life and thus you will probably have to deal with her at certain times.
As for listing the house, you did the right thing. You should never do business with friends or family if you can avoid it. If they have a client that might be interested, it's their responsibility to show them what they want to see. I don't think they need your permission (besides making sure that the house is available for show). If they are stupid enough to keep their personal feelings in the way of earning a living, then that's really their own problem, not yours.
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