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we live in apartments, ok thanks to my neighbors i've been dealing with roaches. (nasty little creatures as soon as i see them they are dead!) the maintenance man come in to fiz out curtain rods. he ran out of the apartment. somehow we got bedbugs! turns out it was a friend of ours. and now we are the major bad guys! because until she deals with the stuff she has, we don't want her anywhere near here!
here's the problem, it's someone i work with at the church. i plan to tell the woman in charge, but i was thinking of leaving names out. because that would just cause a lot of problems. the woman picks us up and takes us home because we don't have cars to get there on our own. i'm just praying she didn't get them in her car. i am so worried right now.

what are your thoughts, would you tell the names or just let it go as it's your fault that you allowed a friend into your home and that friend betrayed you by bringing that stuff in?

sorry but i really feel betrayed right now by these people. oh we just had the heat treatment done last night and we spent $75 at the laundromat because we don't have a washer or dryer here. and the only way to make sure they are gone is to wash them in super hot water, and dry them for an hour in the dryer.


Asked by noel1978 at 6:55 AM on Jun. 22, 2013 in Home & Garden

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Answers (8)
  • Someone from church as in someone from the pantry? If that's the case you ABSOLUTELY must tell them, because this can infiltrate the pantry and the items you are handing out, especially the clothes. Even if it came from someone in your building, they'd still need to know from your end.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 9:22 AM on Jun. 22, 2013

  • betrayed?
    overreact much?
    how do you know she knew she had them and wasnt treating for them?
    how do you know you got them from her and not from another tenant? like the guy with the cockroaches?
    have you talked to her?
    has the complex informed other tenants?

    and washing/ drying is not the only way to get rid of them. perhaps the most convenient because you live in a complex but not the only way.
    and a treatment in your residence without treating the whole complex (especially apts on either side, above and below) will only get rid of them for a little bit.
    they get in the walls and come back out when it's safe

    Answer by feralxat at 10:09 AM on Jun. 22, 2013

  • You weren't't betrayed! That's pretty harsh to say about someone who's a friend IMO
    If she's a friend, you would talk directly to her. Isn't this how you'd want to be treated?

    As the PP stated , bedbugs would be on your mattress/box springs. Did your "friend" spend the night?
    As far as cockroaches go, anyone can get those. You can bring them home in grocery sacks , etc.
    Why are you blaming everyone around you?

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 12:06 PM on Jun. 22, 2013

  • As far as cockroaches go, anyone can get those. You can bring them home in grocery sacks , etc.

    Same is true with bedbugs - they attach to anything fabric or with corners and crevices. Quilts, clothes, purses, diaper bags, backpacks, car upholstery, furniture. Which is why it's very likely her entire church pantry is infested at this point.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 12:28 PM on Jun. 22, 2013

  • Are you sure it isn't lice? Bedbugs get in your mattresses and won't be killed by washing your linens.

    Answer by Bmat at 8:21 AM on Jun. 22, 2013

  • NP is correct
    OP you've probably transported them to every location youve been to
    like your other friends homes and vehicles

    so i guess they've been betrayed by you?

    Answer by feralxat at 12:40 PM on Jun. 22, 2013

  • I'm having a bit of trouble with this "betrayed" thing. While I know having bugs can be frustrating, I doubt if your friend deliberately brought the little beasties into your home. I lost a "friend" once because she caught the whooping cough from me and gave it to her son, and she acted like I contracted the cough and gave it to her on purpose to get her son sick. It was ridiculous.

    Answer by Ballad at 2:34 PM on Jun. 22, 2013

  • First is first...bed bugs look like apple seeds. They can be in you beds, carpet, clothes, love wood, coaches, cars and any where there is heat and food (blood). They are very hard to get out of you house. It can take 6~12 weeks or longer. Clean clean clean wash and dry your clothes and put them in bags only open the bags when you need clean clothes. Vaccum all the time. Hot heat (steam) will help kill them but its the eggs are the hard part. Move you stuff around trun the coaches over vaccum it all and when your done take the vaccum bag out put it in a trash bag tie it up and walk it out side!! It dose not matter how clean you are you can get them!! stop going to that person house, being in there car or even hugs. Bed bugs are small they can hide in the buttoms of shose. if you have a pet control that have big heater they bring into your is worth spending the money!!

    Answer by luckbug at 1:38 PM on Jun. 22, 2013