I don't know what to call him really, sperm donor I guess, that seems popular. My kids bio father though he doesn't deserve that title, is like a hero to my kids and for the life of me I can't understand why. He sees them for about an hour maybe once a week if that. He doesn't have visitation, didn't want it when we split. He just said "If I feel like seeing the kids, I'll call and let you know I'm coming to pick them up." They hardly ever see him but when they do it's like the 4th of July. I know they are young but still can't they see that he isn't involved as much as he should be? My partner and I are the 'real' parents here. We pay all the bills, buy the food, get the kids their school clothes, toys, plan b-day parties, take them to appointments, take them swimming and to the park and to picnics. I paid for summer camp, I drove my daughter to it everyday for 2 weeks. The bio dad comes by on Saturday, takes them to McDonalds then brings them back and drops them off.
That's the extent of his involvement. He doesn't even pay child support. Yet the kids sit around and cry that they want Daddy, after I have spent the entire day with them planning fun things, playing, going to the store, cleaning the house, fixing dinner and the first thing out of their mouths is "Daddy coming?"
I feel like I am nothing to them, sometimes I wonder if they even like me. Why is it that I spend all day with them trying to make them happy and at the end of the day they want Daddy? I mean I have offered to let him have them on weekends and he doesn't want them. He doesn't want them for holidays because it's too hard to drag them around to his family's houses. He doesn't want to take them to his parents house because they get into everything. I just don't understand it. What does he do that makes him mr wonderful and me...basically nothing. I'm just so bummed out I could cry. Thanks for listening to my vent.
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