Answer by pinkparcel at 7:13 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
Well, since she's older than him in a couple years, this may fall under threat of statutory rape. Check the laws for your state since each state has different age guidelines. Here is a link to start your research, BUT you should double check it against your state's website info, since some webpages are inaccurate or outdated and laws can change. You need to educate them on these laws. I disagree with some of the people who answered here. You shouldn't turn into your son's best friend. You need to maintain your parental control. However, you can't force them to be apart because it only makes them try harder to be together.
Answer by hellokittykat at 7:24 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
Answer by hellokittykat at 7:26 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
I know no parent wants to deal with this part of our children growing up. But the others are right, the more you try to keep them apart, the more you risk, well, risky behavior on their part so they can be together. They need to know you don't condone what they are doing, but if they are going to play adult games, they better be ready for the adult consequences. They need to know about types of protection, if they don't already.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:29 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
Make them earn the right to continue dating by asking them to complete certain tests, like cooking meals, balancing a check book, caring for a fake baby for 2 weeks, work babysitting jobs, etc. Ask them questions that get them thinking. Emphasize that you're not saying they can't see other but that they have to earn the right to continue every month by proving they can be responsible. That's fair.
Answer by hellokittykat at 7:30 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
Have them volunteer at Planned Parenthood centers. Even jobs aren't listed in your area, call up a center and I'm sure they will welcome volunteers even if for a few weekends or a few hours.
Answer by hellokittykat at 7:36 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 7:39 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
Your reaction to this will do more harm than good, the forbidden is very very attractive to a teen, you can't control their urges, they have to do that...and this is unlikely to happen. Be smart about this and allow them to see each other because they will do it anyway and all you can do is make it difficult for them to have the free time to have sex..and even them where there is a will there is a way. So your best bet is to make sure contraception is in order, and the possibility of pregnancy is diminished.
Answer by older at 7:43 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
Answer by kmath at 7:48 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
Answer by 2kids2dogs2cats at 8:14 PM on Jun. 24, 2013
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