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My 2 year old daughter has major acting out issue!

She Can Be Very Sweet At Times, But If You Do Anything To Upset Her
It's he** She Is Extremely Smart. She Often Can't Make Up Her Mind On
What She Wants And Often Acts Out If fustration. She Yells None Stop For
Hours I Mean High Pitch Screams, She Kicks And Hits Her Father And I,
She Jus Bit Me And Lef A Bruise, She Throws Terrible Tantrums In Public
It's Extremely Embrassing, We Can't Take Her Anywhere. We Have Tried A Lot Of
Forms Of Displaine and Nothing Is Working. It Got Worse When We Had Our,Son She
Is A Great Big Sis And Loves Him But, I Don't Think She Knows
How To Handle Her Jealously We,Have Tried To Explain It To Her Bu,
Her Being Two I Don't Think She Understands Any Advice Would Be Appreciated!!!

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proudmommy1514

Asked by proudmommy1514 at 7:17 PM on Jun. 24, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • You just had a baby? Your daughter is probably not sure how to express her confusion and exasperation at this life change; she'll calm down as things settle in your household. Stay firm, do whatever you did before when she acted out. Consistency is key. And a lot of this is just plain old normal two-year-old stuff.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 7:22 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

  • have specific time set aside for just her, no little brother, a whole day even...
    josiesmommy00

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 7:22 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

  • What you need to do is take one of the discipline methods and STICK TO IT. If you keep changing it because none of them work, how do you expect one to work? You need to find the one that makes the most sense to the two of you and stick to it. Whatever it is, stick to it. Then she will know exactly what the rules are and how to comply with them.
    SleepingBeautee

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 7:30 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

  • Make sure you have a set discipline plan, Time outs should only be as long as she is old. Don't forget to praise and reward her even if its a small thing she did. And remove all sugary foods from her diet and have her sleep on a schedule. You can take her somewhere to watch other kids and point out thier good behaviour and the bad behaviour and also tell her you expect her to behave like the good kids. New baby's are hard on little ones she is still a baby her self. But defiantly have structure good luck
    pinkparcel

    Answer by pinkparcel at 7:33 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

  • Make her your big helper for any little thing you can think of like loading the dryer, folding clothes (let her do some in any way), etc, etc. Heap on the praise. Have some one on one time with her plus dad should too. She is too young to understand that she has not been replaced by her brother. Make her feel special and some of this acting out will go away. Be firm but calm in all discipline. Read some books on parenting a strong willed child. GL
    silverthreads

    Answer by silverthreads at 7:38 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

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    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 7:42 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

  • Thank Ladies! As For The Sticking To One discipline We Have Done This And IT
    Doesn't Work She Is Literally To Smart. We Can't Sit Her Down For A Regular Time Out Because She Will
    Kick And Scream And The Only Way ToHer To Stay Seated Is To Hold Her Down And That Is Why She Bit Me. And She Is A
    Great Big,Helper She Loves Helping Me With Everyday Chores Her Lil Brother Is Now Five Months
    Old And Nothing Has Changed. We,Took Away Her TV And Now She Won't Sleep She Will Stay Up Till 1 In Morning And Cry Which Is
    Difficult Having A Baby Who Needs His Rest. She Isn't The Kid Who Gives Up And Eventually Falls Asleep She Will Stop At Nothing.
    proudmommy1514

    Comment by proudmommy1514 (original poster) at 7:53 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

  • It's going to be a transition for her, for all of you! It'll get better, just remember you're not the first to go through it. You're on a good site to get good advice and vent :) Good luck!
    jeffsgirl9

    Answer by jeffsgirl9 at 8:57 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

  • Thank You!
    proudmommy1514

    Comment by proudmommy1514 (original poster) at 9:25 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

  • Sit her ass in the corner when she's in trouble. When she gets up, sit her ass in the corner again. Keep doing it until she stays there, quiet, for one minute per year of age. Yes, it may take over an hour (or three) to do a two minute time out. To do anything less is turning over the power to the two year old. You are the parents. You set the rules. It's time to take your power back from the brat.

    Yes, I said brat. She IS one, and you're letting her get away with it. Young kids NEED clearly defined boundaries and consequences. If they don't have those, they become brats.

    As for the tantrums in public, scoop her up, throw her over your shoulder and LEAVE. It's simple. I did it with my kids and they're perfectly healthy, happy, well adjusted children. My son is 9 and my daughter is 6. They know what is expected of them and the follow the rules, for the most part.
    Rosehawk

    Answer by Rosehawk at 9:34 PM on Jun. 24, 2013

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