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Should i wake my 4yr old at night ...during the night to use toilet....will that encourage bad habits?

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Asked by dylan301 at 6:08 PM on Jun. 25, 2013 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Is he or she a bed wetter? Are you trying to prevent an accident?

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 6:08 PM on Jun. 25, 2013

  • Do they NEED to get up to use the bathroom?? If so do it... if not why would you??

    Answer by Crafty26 at 6:12 PM on Jun. 25, 2013

  • Unless there's an established reason, like chronic accidents, I wouldn't wake a child at night to use the bathroom. If you're worried about accidents, start by limiting fluids two hours before bedtime.

    Answer by Ballad at 6:13 PM on Jun. 25, 2013

  • Has been in pull ups at night since 2yrs old . He is upset at still wearing them so thought i would give him a try without them. Toileted him prior to my bedtime and he seemed dry when i checked him up until about five a.m but sometime between then and half seven he was wet. Last night was the first try but i dont want to confuse him waking him again if its not the right thing to do??

    Comment by dylan301 (original poster) at 6:15 PM on Jun. 25, 2013

  • Have done all the other things....limiting fluids , talking about it etc etc.....

    Comment by dylan301 (original poster) at 6:16 PM on Jun. 25, 2013

  • What bad habit do you think it will encourage?

    Answer by Dardenella at 6:23 PM on Jun. 25, 2013

  • We did this and there was no negative effect on either boys and they are 9 and 10 now.

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 6:39 PM on Jun. 25, 2013

  • Yes! Wake him up before you go to bed or set an early alarm and walk him to the toilet. No need to turn on all the lights just have a few nightlights to lead the way. The only thing it will encourage is for his body to wake up for full bladder signals and for him to actually get out of bed to go.

    Answer by But_Mommie at 7:44 PM on Jun. 25, 2013

  • I don't feel you should be waking him. It can take a long time before a child's body is mature enough to be dry at night. And yes, he could start to be a light sleeper or be an early riser. Those habits set in easily. You could start using Goodnites or Underjams as a substitute and to make him feel more comfortable. Take all the stress out of it and simply explain being dry can take a long time and it does happen eventually. I know kids who were 8, 10, 12 before they were dry at night. GL

    Answer by silverthreads at 8:21 PM on Jun. 25, 2013

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