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How do i make my daughter stop whining/crying all day ?!

my daughter is 1 1/2 she says 10 words at most and puppy and bubba are usually the ones she says the most. all she ever wants to do is climb all over me and cry and whine all day. she wants nothing to do with me i know that she wants everything she can have. im a new mom and im only 19. im in school and im in the middle of trying to get an apartment for the first time. i have a feeling her nana (i use to live with) has made her spoiled. no matter where she goes she whines and begs and cries. if she doesnt get her way she throws herself onto the floor and causes a HUGE scene. she never wants anything to do with me only nana, poppi, and mimi. she also thinks if she gives you a kiss itll make it all better. i cant do this im usual home alone with her day in and day out . on top of it all i ask try to ask her what she wants and all she does is shake her head no.

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Asked by lperry9412 at 1:38 PM on Jun. 26, 2013 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • She climbs all over you, but wants nothing to do with you? Honey, you're a little confused. She's climbing on you to get your attention. You're her MOM, you are whole entire world.

    Adults spell "love" L-O-V-E
    Kids spell "love" T-I-M-E

    Just give her your attention, and DO things WITH her. She'll stop whining.

    Answer by Rosehawk at 2:13 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • You need to be super consistent when letting her know what is, and is not, allowed. Stay as calm as you can and set limits. Ignore as much of the whining/tantrums as you can. Sometimes when the child learns the mom is not affected by the tantrums they stop doing it. Make her your little partner for anything and everything around the house....loading the dryer, folding clothes (let her do it for things that don't really matter), sweeping, etc, etc. Heap on the praise when she does something right. Read to her often and spend quality one on one time with her. You also might take a parenting class and/or get some books from the library on parenting. Also tell the other care givers you want consistent, fair, limits set for her when she is in their care. . GL - You have a lot on your plate.

    Answer by silverthreads at 2:22 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • At 1 1/2 you can't expect her to have an attention span like an adult.
    Find activities.
    Wear her out so she'll nap.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 2:23 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • This is going to be rough but if you stick to it you and she will come out better on the other side.
    For now, visits with your parents only when you are there the whole time.
    If she crawls up cuddle her and act like you are putting her to sleep. If she says no, tell her you do not know what she wants and she will have to tell you.
    You might ask her to show you (she may not have been encouraged to use words) Pour a glass of water and ask, water? If she nods ask her to say water. Try maybe three times and let it go. Do it each time. If she make a scene, so what? The world will not collapse. Just ignore her when she throws a fit. Or plop her in a play pen to have the fit and when she is done you can get her out. Be sure you tell her that this is where she will go when she acts naughty.
    For the most part ignoring her when she is just irritating and cueing in to when she needs a rest time, will come with time.

    Answer by Dardenella at 2:36 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • "I try to ask her what she wants and all she does is shake her head no."

    Seriously?? You think at 1 1/2 she can tell you? Well, she doesn't know what she wants. She is bored, tired or hungry. Address those issues when you learn the cues & she will be a happy baby. As far as wanting to be held....she want's love, who is giving it to her?? nana, poppi, and mimi! This is pure unconditional love that you are witnessing here in her behavior. Appreciate it now & reciprocate because she will not be a baby with this capacity for love for very much longer. Soon she'll be ignoring you just the same.

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 3:15 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • She wants to be held more than anything in the world. If you give her time and affection, she'll find it easier to entertain herself for short periods without whining.

    Answer by Ballad at 3:42 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • Play patty cake, push her on the swing. Color with chalk and crayons, Let her stir when you bake. Tickle her, sing. Let her take a long bath and play the whole time. This is what she wants.

    Answer by mompam at 4:48 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • I would say try to calm but untimaltely ignore that behavior.

    Answer by Sillylins at 5:37 PM on Jun. 27, 2013

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