Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

2 Bumps

How soon does CPS close their investigations? Also do ERs automatically call CPS when a child comes in injured?

My SS mom has been under investigation for child abuse and neglect the last couple months. Weeks after her latest court hearing her youngest (2yo) broke his arm. Apparently he feel off the counter.... yay right... I ws wondering when they took him to ER, is the hospital suppose to call CPS?
My SS has been having unexplained bruises. We've been taking pictures for evidence. We live in a state that favors mothers regardless, it's hard for fathers to get custody here. So we are fightign hard.
One day he came with a slightly swollen eye and it was red like someone hit it, we took a picture. He wouldn't tell us what happened. This paste weekend he had a large bruise on his forehead, he told us his mom pinned him down and smacked his head several times. She said she did it because he called her fat. He's only 6.
Last time we called CPS on her which was in April, nothing happened and we figure nothing will happen again this time. We are stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Answer Question

Asked by Anonymous at 4:12 PM on Jun. 26, 2013 in General Parenting

Answers (10)
  • if he had no bruises in ER, likely nothing happened

    2 year olds bruise a LOT. they're little animals. and sadly they do fall from counters sometimes

    It's all about the break. if it's a twist or pull kind instead of a fall kind they'll be ALL OVER THAT.

    Answer by hibbingmom at 4:23 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • ps if the 6 year old is willing to talk again, i'd march him into the police station and have an interview done. got it on tape, get it official.

    Answer by hibbingmom at 4:24 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • the 6 yr old has already talked to CPS to what his mother does yet he's still in her care and we can't get custody of him

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 4:26 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • The best you can do is keep taking pictures, and if the kid is willing to talk, go down to the CPS office or the police station and let him tell his story. Be careful, though, because his mom may push him to retract or abuse him further if he lives with her and she finds out he's ratted her out. That's what happened to me as a kid, and CPS was more than willing to drop the case because my mom was well-known in our town.

    Answer by Ballad at 4:29 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • She said the POLICE! go there and you have pictures, considering today's enviroment, you must get the police involved, call your lawyer and demand emergency custody, no STATE has a ruling on mom's who hit a kid because they call her fat, and bruise him up.
    You could also offer to keep him and continue child support payments, most likely that is the issue anyway she wants her money.

    Answer by 2kids2dogs2cats at 4:41 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • The ER doesn't call just because a child comes in with an injury. Some injuries are legitimate accidental injuries - maybe even most of them. Kids get hurt - they climb, and crawl and get up on things they shouldn't be up on, and it leads to breaks, bruises, scrapes, strains, etc.

    ERs are supposed to report if they suspect abuse - but that comes from looking at the injury and listening to Mom/Dad's story aboutat what happened. If they don't match, or the parent's story is just not sounding right, then they'll report it.

    I agree with the others though, that you should have him talk to the police and see about getting emergency custody. If you feel you have proof he's being abused, you don't wait for someone else to step in and report it and fight for him - you do it yourself.

    Answer by wendythewriter at 5:13 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • My kids were both accident prone but CPS was never call because there was no suspicion of abuse.
    This is what the ER staff looks at. They look at the way a child is bruised or hurt not just that they were hurt.
    Keep documenting and get the child to record what happened and the date.
    Keep calling CPS

    Answer by Dardenella at 5:17 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • Depends on the area. I had a friend whose family was trying to get a child away from an abusive aunt who was her guardian.  The physical and psychological abuse was outrageous.  The school and family members filed many reports.  The girl had a suicide attempt at thirteen years old.  CPS kept defending the aunt, it was like they were an advocate for the guardian not the child.  In the end several family members hired two different lawyers to fight for custody.  Her guardian was too afraid to show up to court so she relinquished custody.


    Answer by RyansMom001 at 9:42 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • RyansMom, that is SO awful...ugh. Our poor kids.

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 11:47 PM on Jun. 26, 2013

  • Take pictures and keep pushing that is all you can do. The ER should be able to tell if the arm is broken from a fall or broken because someone broke it. If someone broke it then they have to report it to CPS. But they don't report everything because I had a situation where my son got stabbed with a rusted piece of metal that another kid found on the playground and the school called 911 to have him rushed to the ER and they didn't call CPS because they knew that it happened while at school.

    Answer by JanetMonroe1991 at 2:23 PM on Jul. 3, 2013

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.