My husband and I have an almost 3 year old bio daughter through fertility treatments. After an awful pregnancy we knew adoption was how we would grow our family. We were not shy about IUI treatments and we announced our pregnancy in person right away (4 weeks and 6 weeks)
Our families have been updated EVERY LITTLE and BIG step of the way (starting with agency interviews) and we have been REALLY open with our friends and coworkers too. We feel sharing the little things and the "almosts" helps everyone understand what is going on in or worlds and they can be very specific in thier prayers.
About a week ago we were matched with a baby due this fall and we of course shared right away with our parents, siblings, close friends (the ones who were our references) and some of my husbands co-workers (so plans can be made for last minute travel and time off)
We know that the bio mom can change her mind at any point between now and 48 hours after baby is born and everyone we have told knows this. My cousins had an awful experience with their first adoption (had baby for 6 weeks and bio mom changed her mind, they got the baby back, bio mom changed her mind again, and finally my cousins adopted this baby). Everyone was supportive and was thankful to know what was going on every step of the way.
With that we feel we need to guard our hearts, but want to be excited and have support from all our family and friends. And we know people want to know.
I have two questions:
1. At what point do we share our match with everyone else? (We will share before TPR and baby is born....but when...now? A month prior?)
2. What are some creative ways to tell people we are matched and "expecting" in the fall?
Thank you for you help!
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