My husband and I have an almost 3 year old daughter (via fertility treatments) She is very intuitive, bright and picks up on things quickly. She is also extremely sensitive and loving.
We started the adoption process about a year and a half ago and have been matched with a birth mom who is due in the fall.
We have been very open with our friends and family because we want their support, understanding, advice, and for them to just understand what has been going on with us.
My question is when and how do we "tell", "explain" and "prep" our daughter for our adoption?
We obviously don't want to get the call saying "birth mom is in labor...you have to get to the hospital...now" then leave our daughter with grandma and grandpa for a week (birth mom is out of state) and return with a baby without our daughter knowing.
BUT, we also don't want to get her excited then the adoption falls through.
Thankfully, because of the laws where we would be adopting, the baby would only come home with us IF TPR has already taken place. So our daughter would not meet baby then baby be taken away.
Advice on when to tell our daughter and SPECIFIC TIPS on HOW to tell, prep, and explain to her would very appreciated!
Answer by 2kids2dogs2cats at 4:43 PM on Jun. 27, 2013
Answer by LostSoul88 at 4:46 PM on Jun. 27, 2013
Answer by But_Mommie at 4:47 PM on Jun. 27, 2013
Answer by LindaClement at 4:52 PM on Jun. 27, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 5:55 PM on Jun. 27, 2013
Answer by 2kids2dogs2cats at 6:03 PM on Jun. 27, 2013
Sense it is so up in the air about if and when you will have the baby. You might want to hint around that she might be a big sister sometime soon. But do not say anything specific.
We are thinking of adopting a baby. But we do not know when it will happen. Something like that.
Answer by louise2 at 9:15 PM on Jun. 27, 2013
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Answer by doodlebopfan at 1:31 AM on Jul. 6, 2013
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