My boyfriend and i have two sons. The youngest, a five year old, is very destructive, and has destroyed well over a thousand dollars worth of items belonging to the rest of the family family (not including his own things or property damage to the house) within the last six months.My bf and I are in the process of moving and have moved out of our bedroom for the past couple weeks due to health issues caused there. My things - all of my most valued possessions, including craft items such as permanent paint, markers sewing supplies, cosmetics, clothes, shoes, my jewelry boxes, were on a shelf and small tables, as well as stacked in boxes and tins around a loveseat in the living room. We are moving this weekend. I left for work and came back 5mins later and the 5yo was on that loveseat in the middle of my belongings. I said no way, please, that's everything important to me that i own, there's paint, nail polish, permanent markers WITHIN REACH, I don't want my things destroyed, he cant be right there. My bf said fine, he wont, he'll play up in his room. Well, he decided that regardless of what he told me he would do, it was fine to let the child play thee for hours while I was at work.. Then he told he was watching so whats the big deal? Besides the fact that I trusted him to keep his word, and that I specifically explained the 'big deal' before I left, I think the big deal is now more of my belongings have been destroyed.He told me that the blue permanent paint, which is now gone and will need replaced to finish a project, which I got to clean up after work and that ruined one of my favorite shirts - oh yes, he told me that it is MY fault, because the paint may not have had a cap on top of the squeeze bottle. Well, that would be one reason I didn't feel it was suitable for small children to play there, it certainly wasn't childproof in that area. I feel like he completely disrespected me and my property. I am angry and hurt. And I told the kids directly before I left they couldn't play there and why, and he completely overruled my authority. He does not seem to understand why I am angry. He wanted the kids to play there so they could watch a movie on the computer monitor. I asked then why not take it up to one of their rooms. He said, no way would he let his computer equipment be up there with the kids, it would get broke! Umm, that seems a bit hypocritical to me. I feel that disrespected, and that my property was disrespected. I feel like crying. How I can get my boyfriend to understand my position?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:15 AM on Jul. 3, 2013 in Relationships
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Answer by charlotsomtimes at 9:17 AM on Jul. 3, 2013
I think your first issue is to deal with your destructive child. Why is he doing this? Is he in school during the year? Does he do this in school? Sounds like your Boyfriend has washed his hands of the bad behavior & is just letting them run amuck. Keep your personal precious items in your car trunk or at a friends house. The "health issues" you are describing in your bedroom may be the cause of the childs wild behavior too. Have you spoken to his Pediatrician? What does he eat? No sugar & eliminate foods with added food dyes. When a home is messy & disrupted then it also effects the people living there. There are a lot of issues you need to address not just your Boyfriend. GL!
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