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What should I do so my 5 yr old step son wont be Jelous

We are expecting a baby girl in June and my Fiances son is 5 and visits us once a week and everyother weekend and 6 weeks in the summer. I dont want him to feel jelous about his new baby sister that will be here soon, They will have to share a bedroom until we move to a bigger house. any Ideas? He is very excited about a new sister we bought him a Big brother shirt last weekend that he wanted but I dont want him to feel like he has been replaced.

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:58 AM on Feb. 18, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Keep him as involved as possible. Let him in on every step of the way, and if there are any choices that you don't mind him making, let him. My parents were torn between two middle names with my sister (I was 6) so they let me pick. Let him choose some toys, clothes, and nursery decorations. Once the baby is here, let him help and praise him like crazy for being such an awesome big brother.

    Answer by SamanthaAgain at 11:00 AM on Feb. 18, 2009

  • When I was his age my daddy was having a baby with another
    woman, and jealosy is going to exist reguardless, but I remember
    being more excited than anything.
    At five years old they don't want to be a baby anymore anyway so
    he'll probably be so proud to be an older brother, and make him
    feel important by letting him help out (like by passing you a diaper
    or letting him hold the bottle).
    I remember the day my sister was born getting dressed to go to
    the hospital so fast just because I wanted to meet my baby sister.
    I have a 2 year old daughter and a 10 month old daughter and my
    oldest shows signs of jealosy rarely, and for the most part
    shes proud being an older sister and is very overprotective.
    (she refers to the baby as hers).
    If you don't see signs of jealosy don't assume it and I'm sure
    you'll do a wonderful job, just keep him included.

    Answer by bronxcouture at 11:10 AM on Feb. 18, 2009

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