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How much time does your 8 year old spend outside running around with thier friends and how late?

I just want to know how other families are in regards to how much your kids play outside with their friends and how late as well. Here’s the story. I have an 8 year old step daughter and she has a neighborhood friend that comes over to our house pretty much every chance she gets. I mean the minute we pull up in the driveway Shes over at our car door. She wanders the neighborhood all day long, I’ve never seen her parents out playing with her or even watching her for that matter. My step daughter has been hanging out with her more and more and Shes finding herself in trouble more and more now because she makes such poor decisions when Shes with this girl. For example the girl talked my step daughter into leaving the neighborhood and going down and playing in the creek (which they just did a news study on and is very contaminated with stuff) and they were actually in the creek playing. I went to check on her after about 30 minutes and they were not at the friend’s house they told me they were at and were in fact in this creek. Needless to say I was very mad. When they ask me to do something or go somewhere and I say no not today or just plain no I hear this kid telling my step daughter to ask me again and say please please please. And shell just sit there for 10 minutes telling her to come ask me again and what not. So then another issue I’m having is that this kid is coming over to my house at 9-9:30 pm some nights asking if my step daughter can come out to play… ummm no Shes in bed by then. A few other things my step daughter tells me this girl is always lifting her shirt up and talking about sex and “adult body parts” exc. Can someone please tell me if I’m just too uptight or do I have a reason to feel completely annoyed to the point I want to move out of this neighborhood to get away from this girl! I could probably go on and on with a million reasons why I don’t want my step daughter playing with this girl!

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Asked by stepmom2B29 at 1:50 PM on Jul. 3, 2013 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • You're nicer than I would be. If my kid went beyond his limits to play in a creek without permission with a friend, he wouldn't be allowed to play with said friend for a week or two. My kids know that if they can't stay out of trouble (if they can't stand up and say "no, I can't do that") with a friend, then that friend will not be allowed around for a while. And if any friend was telling them to whine or bug me to get what they want, that friend would be sent home and I'd be letting the parents know that it is NOT appreciated that their kid is pressuring my kid to do things my kid knows he shouldn't be doing.

    The thing with lifting her shirt, and talking about sex and body parts - I'd tell the parents about that, too. I would tell them exactly what my child said their child was doing. And if it didn't stop, or I thought the parents were doing something to cause it, I'd call CPS.

    Answer by wendythewriter at 2:54 PM on Jul. 3, 2013

  • The talk about sex would worry me, and the coaxing your daughter to make bad decisions, more than the roaming. Depending on your neighborhood, of course. I would suggest trying to steer your daughter into other activities so she doesn't have time to hang out with this girl too much. As for the whining and "please, please, please" thing, if you don't give an inch, maybe the girl will get the idea eventually that begging is a futile tactic.

    Answer by Ballad at 3:29 PM on Jul. 3, 2013

  • the girl begging your daughter to ask again to play seems normal to me.

    Make some rules for your daughter. In at dark or after dinner or whatever...BE where you say you will be- let her know you WILL check on her and if she isn't there she will be grounded. She will learn that she has to follow the rules if she wants freedom.
    Let her know that too.
    As for the other girl talking about body parts and whatnot, I'm not sure what to tell you, except to have a talk with your daughter about it and that it isn't okay to go around talking about such things, and talk to her about choosing friends wisely

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 4:32 PM on Jul. 3, 2013

  • Bikes to the park, behind my home, I don't go inside, to the neighbors house (who I know) let him go to the fast mart, about a block away with a few older kids on Saturday, but he takes my phone.
    He really doesn't run about anywhere, that I am not with im.

    Answer by 2kids2dogs2cats at 4:51 PM on Jul. 3, 2013

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