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Any good whoppers from your kids?

My daughter is five, and gradually growing out of the fib stage, but it had gotten pretty deep for a while. One time, after a trip to the zoo, she told me that a neighbor kid threw a camel at her on the sidewalk and that was how she scraped her arm.

KIDS' HEALTH: True Lies Is your child fibbing? Learn how to tell and the
best way to handle By Jennifer Soong

Preschoolers (kids ages 3 to 5) are
busy learning to grasp the line between reality and fantasy, and one way
they may do that is to tell fibs or tall tales. Parents often react hotly,
but that's not always the best way to handle the situation. They will say,
'Gosh, my child is lying. I don't know what to do. But it's a fuzzy line
between what's real and what's not in a child's imagination," says Tanya
Remer Altmann, a pediatrician and author of Mommy Calls: Dr. Tanya Answers
Parents' Top 101 Questions About Babies and Toddlers. Let's say your
3-year-old spills milk on the floor. You ask, "Who spilled it? and your
child says, "Not me. It's not that your child is lying, Altmann says. She
may wish she hadn't spilled it, or, if the incident happened an hour ago,
she might not even remember. Pediatric psychologist Mark Bowers, PhD, of the
Ann Arbor Center for Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics in Michigan, says
children under age 5 are too young to understand what a lie is. That's
because they don't have the same cognitive capacity as a kindergartenage
kid, who is beginning to learn the difference between right and wrong. You
don't have a future criminal on your hands because your child's not 'fessing
up to spilling the milk in the kitchen," Bowers says. If you catch your
child drawing on the walls, you may be tempted to confront her. It's better
to state what the rule is and offer a solution, Bowers says. For example,
"We have a rule in this house that we only draw on paper. So why don't we
get some soap, and you can help Daddy clean it up? To avoid accusations, he
advocates playing dumb. Within your child's earshot, you can say: "Oh, I
wonder how this milk got spilled. It would really be nice if somebody could
help me clean it up. After your kid comes over and helps you, give her a
high five for helping out. Bowers also suggests reading books together that
encourage honesty, such as The Boy Who Cried Wolf. EXPERT TIP Have fun with
your children. Join them so they can pursue what's in their imagination.
-Mark Bowers, PhD


Asked by Ballad at 6:34 PM on Jul. 6, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • mine (six in two weeks)
    tells people that she was born in China
    she has upped this lately
    now she is a princess from China, her mom let her color her hair and the doctor changed her eyes

    fun fun fun when she tells strangers this
    told a man (from Korea) this the other week at the library - she was playing with his two year old daughter

    Answer by fiatpax at 7:25 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • A camel? LMAO! I teach mine by telling them ridiculous excuses and lies back. "We can't go to the water park because this flock of midget penguins were crossing the road, threatened me with ice picks and ninja kicks and then robbed me of everything, including my sense of fun."



    Answer by hellokittykat at 6:41 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • Mine blames the cat for things he does that he shouldn't ;)

    Answer by bandgeek521 at 6:44 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  •  This came to mind :)


    Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:46 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • Sorry ballad, I keep forgetting you can't see the pics- I posted a Family Circus Comic strip with the 3 kids all saying "Not me" and the little "Not Me" ghost running away from the scene :)

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:28 PM on Jul. 6, 2013