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why does my husband gay bash any male he suspects to be gay?

Whenever we are out and he sees a male that is obviously gay , he immediately starts making jokes about them to me.

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jen4244

Asked by jen4244 at 6:45 PM on Jul. 6, 2013 in Relationships

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  • Because he's a homophobe!
    PMSMom10

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 6:46 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • He has a problem and until he admits to it and wants to change himself he will always be like this.
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 6:47 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • why does my husband gay bash any male he suspects to be gay?

    how in the hell would we know what his reasoning is?
    youve given us no information.
    maybe he's an ass. maybe he was raped. maybe he has a psychological problem.
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 6:48 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • I can think of a few reasons:
    1) he's homophobic
    2) he's secretly gay himself & wishing he could be with that guy
    3) he's very immature
    4) he isn't secure in his own masculinity to live & let live
    5) he's an ass!
    mrsmom110

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:49 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • gosh, there are so many reasons why:

    maybe his religion taught him homosexuality was wrong
    maybe he was taught that men who love men are not real men
    maybe he is uncomfortable with PDA esp. by gay men
    maybe he feels his own masculinity is threatened by men loving men
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 6:53 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • It's a reflection of his own insecurities. Most fears are. Sometimes, gay people who don't know they're gay also project their confusion. They'll attack others for what they see or dislike in themselves. I knew several closet gays in high school that acted quite homophobic but then later came out.

    Most people have a fear of the unknown as well. The more he learns about homosexuality, the less scared of them he should feel. Perhaps even set him up. Invite someone who is a homosexual over for dinner or drinks, but both of you agree not to spill the fact that s/he is gay until AFTER you've already gotten comfortable with each other and made good conversation. He will learn that they are not as bad as he thinks and that they're people, too.
    hellokittykat

    Answer by hellokittykat at 6:54 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • Your husband's insecurities are showing.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 6:57 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

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    midnightmoma

    Answer by midnightmoma at 7:01 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • Its just what we do it's a defendants thing so there don't come on to us
    pleasureman

    Answer by pleasureman at 7:03 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

  • It's a reflection of his own insecurities.

    so anyone you just dont like means you are insecure?
    take an obvious junkie for example.if you prefer to not be around junkies, what exactly are you insecure about?

    and to set someone up to teach them a lesson- we are talking about a grown man with no information regarding his past...

    say he was raped. what is your scenario going to prove?
    and would you appreciate being put in a similar situation?
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 7:05 PM on Jul. 6, 2013

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