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I have a total of three children. My oldest is from a previous relationship. My fiance and I have planned our wedding for next June and we have planned to relocate from Georgia to Alaska. Is it illegal to take my oldest daughter with me? (she's only 9)

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imbossy506

Asked by imbossy506 at 7:58 PM on Jul. 7, 2013 in Relationships

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  • It depends on your custody agreement. That's a question for your lawyer.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 8:00 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

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    midnightmoma

    Answer by midnightmoma at 8:01 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

  • How would we know? Look at your papers and consult with that child's father.
    Izsarejman

    Answer by Izsarejman at 8:02 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

  • No way in hell you would get me there, talk about one extreme to another. Oh you asked a question, what does the father say, and your custody agreement as mentioned from above, that is the answer. Ask your lawyer
    midnightmoma

    Answer by midnightmoma at 8:03 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

  • There aren't any papers to look at. We've been fortunate and sensible enough to not ever have to step foot in a courtroom.
    imbossy506

    Comment by imbossy506 (original poster) at 8:04 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

  • So- when you were surfing the net attempting to find the answer to your question...
    why did you bypass all of the legal sites and decide to join an opinion site?
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 8:05 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

  • I wouldn't think it's illegal per say, but if you try to do this, her dad may decide it's time to set foot in a court room. Have you talked to him about this?? He needs to know.
    2autisticsmom

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 8:06 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

  • I think the father will have a problem with this, I wouldn't let the other parent take my child to Alaska..
    midnightmoma

    Answer by midnightmoma at 8:07 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

  • I would suggest a civil, cool-headed talk with the biological father of the child, where both parents decide what will be in her best interest and fit the financial and living arrangements of all. The more the father has been involved in the life of the child, the more say he should have about what happens next.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 8:19 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

  • Then you need to talk to the father and get permission to take her to Alaska. And be very prepared for him to say no and to haul you into court, which is where you two should have gone in the first place so you would never have to ask these questions.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 8:33 PM on Jul. 7, 2013

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