Friend of mine getting married October 26 and sent a "save the date" notice via Facebook. One future guest asked where the reception was going to be and bride-to-be answered:
It's my friends property and home. They have 14 acres and they graciously offered to let us use their land. It will be beautiful in the fall with all of their trees."
By the end of October, most trees around here (we are 20 minutes from where their reception will be) have already lost most of their leaves. I didn't want her to be upset or disappointed about this if she would be expecting colors of red, orange, and yellow in the background, so I decided to message her privately (not wanting to do it publicly) saying:
"Saw your post on your wedding (congrats on date, btw). Just FYI, by the end of October, most leaves are off trees. At least by our house they are, maybe different types of trees there or something. Our big leaf pile is usually always done in mid-October when our trees are almost bare."
She basically just answered saying that it was the only weekend in October they could do it and she was hoping for some warmth and stubborn leaves.
I was asking husband if he knew anything about if our trees were early shedders and why and he told me that I should have kept my mouth shut because I probably came across as a pushy-know-it-all. I was only trying to help out and that was my only intent, but started to worry that friend may have thought what husband said, so I messaged her just telling her that If I came across that way, I was sorry, it wasn't my intent and that everything was going to be beautiful no matter what.
Her reply was:
"Lol. It's all good. I knew your intention, although someone else may not have gotten it. Lol."
I am just not understanding how my intent could have been taken other than just trying to be a helpful friend. Husband was no help in explaining and I'd rather leave it alone with the friend, so hoped I could get some ideas from you all. If it were you in my shoes, would you have left it alone?
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Some may say should call to talk to personally instead of message and I would agree normally, but we really don't have that type of friendship. More of a local mom Facebook friend that we get kids together for a playdate every now and again.
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