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2 Bumps

Want a baby with him

I had my tubes tied 13 years ago.
Reversal or in vitro?
Anyone know an estimated cost for each?
Percentage rates for successful pregnancy?
Any good ideas for more information?
Doctors name?
Time, recovery?

Anything else I may need to know??!!
Please help

I'm almost 38 and he's 48, would be my 4th child and his first.
Are we to old?


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Asked by Anonymous at 6:06 PM on Jul. 8, 2013 in Trying to Conceive

Answers (8)
  • Adoption is your best option.

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 6:19 PM on Jul. 8, 2013

  • I'm mostly answering so others don't think I'm the one that asked this question.
    If it were me, I would just get a cat or a dog. I know it's not the same and believe me, I completely understand wanting to give him a baby (I am 34, tubes tied 11 yrs ago, 3 kids, SO doesn't have any) BUT, my youngest is 12. The thought of starting over (morning sickness, heartburn, hrs of labor, stinky diapers, potty training, terrible 2's....the list of phases I have gone thru 3 times now continues) just scares me. Not to mention that I have no baby anything as I gave it all away. Have you seen the cost of diapers lately?

    I briefly googled it to see what a reversal would cost and what the success rates were. The cost was something like $5,000 and insurance won't cover that. The success rate is actually quite high, depending on the type of tubal ligation you had.

    Sorry but my suggestion is to just get a cat. I'm saying this as nicely as I can

    Answer by tempsingl3mom at 6:22 PM on Jul. 8, 2013

  • No, you aren't too old. I don't know what a reversal would cost but you would be looking at $12,000 to $15,000 even with very good insurance for IVF.

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 6:27 PM on Jul. 8, 2013

  • How badly does he want this? Does it have to be HIS baby, or would he be happy w/ adoption? Maybe fostering first? The procedures are expensive like tempsingl3mom said & you have no guarantees. I can tell you, my dad was 48 when my evil 1/2 sister was born & now that she's grown (21 y/o) & has a baby that just turned 1, his patience isn't what it used to be. Your hubby needs to look at the big picture. GL

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:39 PM on Jul. 8, 2013

  • If you are more concerned about parenting together than biology, adoption might work for you. Also, you could adopt a slightly older child and have a higher chance of getting one in a timely manner.

    What kind of tubal did you have? The ligation procedure is somewhat reversible, but many women have cauterization done as well.

    Answer by Ballad at 6:59 PM on Jul. 8, 2013

  • Get up the dream. Go get a dog.

    Answer by louise2 at 9:00 PM on Jul. 8, 2013

  • Dear friend it is almost two months now since i order a pregnancy spell cast on me by Dr ZOGO from this email and which i started seeing changes on my body since the first week of last month and it two months and i am carrying my own baby in my womb i am so happy that i finally get pregnant after all i been through. All thanks be to Dr Zogo
    Andy S.

    Answer by Andy S. at 10:44 AM on Sep. 3, 2013

  • Are you sure?

    Answer by escuchar at 9:07 PM on Mar. 15, 2014

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