We get into disputes majority of the time we're around each other, I told him I had a Bone to pick with him but meant it in a joking way. He got really upset and told me not to say that to him. After apologizing for the word he kept going, and going to the point where now I'm irritated so I tell him to leave. Now here he talks about everything he does for me and the kids, and how he volunteers to help when I need it and now I'm honestly regretting my decision to work things out with him. It's so frustrating, I do tend to joke a lot, I can be goody and serious as well. So some things I say offends him and some things he says offends me what can I do???
Answer by fiatpax at 9:58 AM on Jul. 10, 2013
Answer by NannyB. at 11:05 AM on Jul. 10, 2013
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Answer by gdiamante at 10:37 AM on Jul. 10, 2013
every argument this is the first thing he mentions.
Yeah- I bet he does. He is asking you to acknowledge that he doesn't just lay around and tell you to fend for yourself. He wants a pat on the back every now and then.
He gets offended if I use words such as I got a bone to pick with you
he gets offended if you tell him youve got a complaint? how often do you have a complaint about something? is there anything he does that makes you happy?
We get into disputes majority of the time we're around each other (and) I'm honestly regretting my decision to work things out with him.
sounds like you want to break up and are trying to see how far you can push him
Answer by feralxat at 10:59 AM on Jul. 10, 2013
Answer by virginiamama71 at 9:54 AM on Jul. 10, 2013
Bad communication is just something you both have to work on. I am misunderstood a lot too, but we've gotten better. Are they his kids?? If they are he SHOULD be doing stuff for them. If they aren't then his argument is semi valid, but it seems it may be the only one he's got. Next time he brings up what he does do for you and the kids you can say " And we appreciate that, but that is not what we are discussing right now." The keys to a successful relationship are....Communication, Consideration, and Compromise. Try not to judge what he says because he is entitled to feel the way he does. You are entitled to feel the way you do as well. You've already learned that "have a bone to pick with you" is not a good way to start a conversation. However you did apologize so whether he chooses to accept it or not is on him. Counselling might be a good idea.
Answer by 2autisticsmom at 11:06 AM on Jul. 10, 2013
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