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is it harmful for a 2 year old to stay up all night and sleep all day every day

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Asked by tjones58 at 2:17 AM on Jul. 11, 2013 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Harmful, probably not. Stupid, YES!

    Answer by m-avi at 2:17 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • Not harmful, but if you don't start NOW, that kid will never get on a schedule for school. Breaking this cycle can take YEARS.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 2:21 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • Maybe not harmful in itself, but the likelihood that the toddler is around partying or other less-than-child-friendly activities is most likely higher during the night hours.

    Answer by Ballad at 2:29 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • I would ask the reason for this upside down schedule.
    Children by the time they begin school, whether that is preschool or otherwise will need to be on a daytime schedule and this will cause them a good deal of difficulty change later on.

    Answer by Dardenella at 2:53 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • this is the schedule that his parents allow. father works nights. mother doesn't work and she wants to sleep in every day. i am his grandmother and i keep him on weekends. this schedule is killing me.

    Comment by tjones58 (original poster) at 4:35 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • A schedule like this could ruin his sleeping habits for years to come. It is NOT a good idea to teach him to sleep during daytime and be up and about at night - how is his body ever going to get used to living the other way round. This really needs to be attended to NOW because if you wait until he goes to school ... well ... everyone is in for an extremely rough ride. The mother needs to get herself up and moving and have a normal kind of day.

    If she's sleeping like that, has she been screened for depression? OR is it just laziness?

    Answer by goldpandora at 5:44 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • Yeah, the parents aren't doing that child any favors by allowing this to happen. What about him getting out during the day for some fresh air & sunshine? What will happen when the child starts school? Normal life happens during the day. I feel sorry for the dad who works 3rds. Quite frankly, I don't know how people do it. I know I couldn't. They need to change his schedule.

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:30 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • Get over yourselves ladies. The father works nights and the mother doesn't work so the child is on their schedule. Just because it is different does not mean it will do harm. IF they plan to send the child to school then yes it will be difficult (not impossible) to change the schedule the longer they allow it, but what if they home school? Many people spend their entire adult lives working third shift with no ill effects. Now if unsavory things are happening at night that is completely another story.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:57 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • Not going to harm him, but it will make life difficult in the near future. Mom need to get off her ass and be a parent. I would stop taking him on weekends if it is "killing" you that his schedule is like that. Just because it is his schedule does not mean it has to be yours. Let his parents take care of him on the weekend. That is their job. You've raised your kids.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 8:32 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • I don't think it's harmful for a child to be adjusted to his family's schedule, if he's getting sufficient sleep as well as the contact, stimulation etc. that help kids to thrive. Likely, he is sleeping when his parents sleep, which increases the likelihood of him being in meaningful contact with his father, which is a good thing.
    It sounds like it is not really working for you, and that matters. You have to negotiate what you can manage. If you can't manage his care on weekends with his sleep schedule being what it is, let the family know what is challenging you. This would open the door to some collaborative problem-solving, or to a change of expectations so you are not being over-extended or displeased.
    I don't think you legitimately can base your objections in a claim of "harm," but you don't need to! It's okay to base them in your feelings, needs & preferences. (Rather than in somehow "being right," and them "wrong.")

    Answer by girlwithC at 9:42 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

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