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Am I wrong for not calling my mother in law mom?

I really dnt call her anything. If I call her up on the phone and she answers I just say hi how are you doing today? I just really dnt feel comfortable calling her mom. I had a mother, we weren't close or anything but she was still my mom.

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jen4244

Asked by jen4244 at 11:36 AM on Jul. 11, 2013 in Relationships

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  • omg no. I personally would find it insulting to call someone else mom.
    hibbingmom

    Answer by hibbingmom at 11:38 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • I never called mine "mom", in fact I don't remember calling her anything, I mean I'd talk to her, and we were fine, but I never really used her name to her face or anything. I'd refer to her as "your mom" when talking to hubby about her
    *Did not see her often and never called her on my own though, so maybe that's why?
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 11:40 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • We've been married 15 years and I still call my mother in law Kathy.
    JulieJacobKyle

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 11:41 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • No, you are not wrong. Does she want you to call her that? If she does, I would tell her that "Mom" is not an option and ask her if she has a second choice.
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 11:42 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • I call my MIL Sandra.
    mommy_jules

    Answer by mommy_jules at 11:43 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • you do what you are comfortable with. if she doesnt llike it then the problem is hers to deal with
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 11:46 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • I love my mil to pieces and we have a great relationship and I don't have her mom
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 11:47 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • She never expressed that she wanted me to call her anything.
    jen4244

    Comment by jen4244 (original poster) at 11:47 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • For several years I called my mil Dolly. In the last year it has moved to mom. We're extremely close and I love her like a mother. My mom is ok with this as we have a very mixed up family. (we're raising our grandkids who call me mom but they also call their bmom's mom. Mom is a term of love in our family and one that is earned.
    baconbits

    Answer by baconbits at 11:49 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

  • I don't call mine mom either, I call her by her 1st name, Kathy. My dh still calls my parents Mr. or Mrs. Spence. So funny
    josiesmommy00

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 11:51 AM on Jul. 11, 2013

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