This isn't from any specific question today, though I've seen it happen here quite a bit. It's even more common in a couponing fb group I'm in.
In the 70's, most family's watched All in the Family every week, with every racist and misogynist slur intact - a lot of those homes still agreed with it, too. In 4th grade, one of the girls would steal her older brother's Cheech and Chong tapes and bring them to school. We had our first (of many) sex-ed sessions with the gym teacher, covering basic reproduction and why it wasn't nice to tease the girls who had to use the pad machine in the bathroom. When I was 11, Porky's was on HBO, and I saw it, and understood it. Along with quite a few other movies on HBO and Cinemax.
The music on the radio included oldies, like the Beatles singing about killing a girl if she dared look at another man, current songs like Til Tuesday lamenting about emotionally abusive husbands, right up to Suzanne Vega matter of factly sing songing the story of a child being brutally beaten.
There was a really disgusting underground Atari game about Custer raping Indian women, everyone knew someone whose parents had a copy, and had snuck in to see it when they could. Nobody understood the bigger social issue, it was mainly a game to get the naked guy from one side of the screen to the other to have sex with the naked woman, at which point everyone giggled.
In jr high, there were already kids smoking, drinking, doing drugs and having sex. The first teen pregnancy in our class was in 8th grade. Everyone knew how it happened, because we'd all had 2 more rounds of sex ed by then. People used the money they saved up from their Confirmation gifts to go to R rated movies, because the theater didn't care as long as they were selling tickets and popcorn.
So knowing this was all going on 30 and 40 years ago, why are people shocked, stunned and appalled when their child repeats a dirty word or makes an off-color reference they don't fully understand? Do they forget what they saw and heard as a child, or do they have some impossible standard for a bubble to keep their child locked in?
Yesterday, DS made a comment about teabagging. My first reaction was shock (actually, my first reaction was to laugh, but I managed to maintain control on that one), then I asked him what it meant. He wasn't exactly sure, but he'd heard it from (insert string of classmates' names). I gave him a brief explanation of which part of anatomy it referred to and that it was rude, that was good enough for him. It's filed away in his mental databank of stuff he knows but shouldn't say out loud, but probably will when he's with his friends at school and I can't hear him. I suspect it's a very large databank, and he's only 11.
Mentioned it to a friend from that fb group, who laughed and asked if I was going to lock him up (she was kidding). Some of those mutual friends from the group saw it and immediately started in on "you need to report that to the school". Report what? That 11 year olds know some dirty words and like using them for shock value? If the school doesn't already know that, I question the abilities of the administration.
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