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Canceling visitation

My ex called me said he will be canceling visitation because he cannot afford to go out and do something with our son also he cannot afford gas this week. He asked me to borrow money I told him I am not funding his visitation am I wrong?

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AAP1988

Asked by AAP1988 at 3:13 PM on Jul. 15, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • Is he a good father otherwise?
    Mrs_Prissy

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 3:14 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

  • Mrs_Prissy not really but what does that have to do with anything? I offered him makeup time when he can afford it.
    AAP1988

    Comment by AAP1988 (original poster) at 3:17 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

  • You're not wrong.
    If your ex had full custody and needed gas to get to work or to daycare that's on HIM.
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 3:19 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

  • No money is needed to sit home and talk and play with our children.
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 3:20 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

  • It has to do with the fact that I'm not sure I wouldn't just loan him the money for one visitation in order to keep things calm and consistent for your child.
    Mrs_Prissy

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 3:20 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

  • PartyGalAnne: I agree...I take care of my children on my own with minimal child support, so I do not have the money to fund his visitation.
    AAP1988

    Comment by AAP1988 (original poster) at 3:21 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

  • Mrs_Prissy: I don't have the money to loan him. I take care of my children with minimal cs.
    AAP1988

    Comment by AAP1988 (original poster) at 3:22 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

  • I'm agreeing with Mrs. Prissy.. if it wasn't a constant thing I would probably either loan the money or offer to drop the child off at his place(where he could visit or walk to a park etc) and pick up.

    tntmom1027

    Answer by tntmom1027 at 3:22 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

  • Virginiamama: he doesn't have the gas money to get to my house and back.
    AAP1988

    Comment by AAP1988 (original poster) at 3:22 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

  • tntmom: I don't have the money and he lives an hr away I have a medical condition where I cannot drive. He used to live in my town my parents transported when he lived five mins away now he lives an hr away.
    AAP1988

    Comment by AAP1988 (original poster) at 3:23 PM on Jul. 15, 2013

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