Went to starbucks on the way to taking the kids to the park. My two older girls had money to buy themselves a frap (no coffee). I ordered a cup of whip cream for my younger two I guess the older two wanted it as well so also ordered a cup of whip along with their drinks( I didn;t know this until they came out). When the lady put them on the counter my son(4yrs) grabbed one then put it back. My 9yr old insisted he take the one he touched first and grabbed the other one. He said he wanted that one and I toold her to give it to him beacuse it was ordered for HIM. She said No this one is his and kept demanding he take the other one and started to cause a scene. I told her to let him have it now or I would take hers away and she wouldn't get one, so she did But not without having an attitude. * I don't understand how any kids could have an attitude when getting a treat. I warned her that if she didn't loose her attitude I would take the whip cream away. She didn't stop so I had to take it away.
I was consiterating giving it back to her if she stopped her attitude But on the way out of the store she grabbed the whip and stared eating it. I took it from her again and back came the attitude. When we got in the car I gave it to her brother to have.This is where the freak out really starts!
She Yelled " SERIOUSLY!?!?!?" I tried to explain to her that she has no business having an attitude over a FREE whip cream that was exactly the same when she also had a frappuccino and we are headed to the park. ( I mean seriously WTF) But all this was pointless as she was yelling and screaming at me the whole time. I again warned her That I would now take her frappuccino. She then Yelled NO YOU WONT. ITS MINE, I PAID FOR IT! So as everyone is staring at our car I reach back to grab it as she resisted I had to grab her hand to get it from her. After this im pretty sure everything turned RED for her and I could not even explain how bad it was. She was SCREAMING, said I abuse her and she hates me, i am so MEAN to her, I am a MONSTER and whatever else. Her brother and baby sister where almost in tears they were so upset with all the yelling, we almost got in a car accident I couldn't even focus on my driving, I was so upset.
I was going to take her to the park and just have her sit while the other kids played because dad was at home working but at this point I had to take her home. When we got home she grabbed her Frappiccino and ran in her room. I followed her and took it out of her hand and she was screaming hitting and kicking me so I walked to the bathroom and I flushed it down the toilet. Her dad had to grab her she was freaking out so bad.
This was yesterday and she has been in her room ever since. I have to put an END to this behavior ASAP. WHAT DO I DO? I can't even look at her yet I am still so mad. She has been eating in her room. We told her she needs to write us a letter explain what she did wrong. But all it said was that we hate her and she want to live with her grandparents. She just wants to run the show and be able to do whatever she want and thinks she can talk and act like an adult. It is INSANE!! PLEASE HELP!!
Comments to answers: -It should be a simple thing to ask a 9yr old to do. She is older and to hand over a whip cream that is exactly the same to her 4yr old brother should be simple! Especially since she had a Frappiccino coming. I Also can't let an attitude just go when I we were suppose to being getting a treat
. -The whip cream was a tiny cup that was FREE
-WOW, REALLY? NO way! NO throwing fits! Especially when your getting a treat or the treat goes AWAY!
-No my Daughter was trying to control the situation. It is not up to her to decide which one he has to have just because he touched one.
****Im sorry But I think your all wrong. She should not have had a whip cream cup in the first place. I didn;t even know she ordered one until she started bossing her brother around. I ordred one for him and one for their younger sister. The older two ordered their own drinks Don't know where they even thought they were allowed to order a cup of whip. It was HIS cup to choose from PERIOD!!!!** this is not a normal reaction on my part. This is just been the final straw of her attitude. I have sat down and been super understanding and have made multiple efforts to fix things that she has said so was in happy about. It doesn't stop her freak outs!! How so I get her to control herself??? Answer Question
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