after being sick for 2 weeks and in the house i have been able to watch a situation from the other side...my daughters friend mother is munipulating the girls and who plays with who when and basically leaving my daughter out for some reason.but this is a 45 yr old woman thats playing this not the girls.i dont know if i shoud just sit back and watch but my daughters feelings are starting to get hurt.ya she does play with other girls but she wants to play with this one and doesnt understand why she cant..should i approach her or just leave it...???Answer Question
Answer by hgibsonorc at 2:22 PM on Feb. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 2:25 PM on Feb. 18, 2009
It took me until I was in college to realise who my true friends were. While telling your daughter that girls who ignore her aren't worth her time might make sense to you and other adults, it does not make sense to a child. They long for acceptance and are willing to trade "true" friendships just to be accepted and liked at school. You can't force them to look at their friendships the way you do, it is just the way adolescent girls are. Honestly, it's a much better situation that the mom is causing the problem and not the girls. It means that if you can reason with the mom, there's a chance that the girls might be really nice girls and could be great friends to your DD. I'd befriend the mom if I were you and talk to her about your observations. Maybe she's misinformed about something which is causing her to not have her DD hang out with yours and you can quickly and kindly set her straight solving the problem?
Answer by NovemberLove at 4:12 PM on Feb. 18, 2009
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Answer by sweetscrappin at 5:21 PM on Feb. 18, 2009
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