I will be straight forward. He is becoming too ill-mannered. I have been trying to cover his tantrums, hitting other kids, screaming when not having things gone his way and giggling uncontrollably at my face when i'm firmly trying to tell him to do (or not to do something) something by excuses like, "oh he's a little under the weather" or "he's a little cranky because he's teething/sleep deprived/hungry" or "he's really strong willed"
He has been kitting kids in his class. and yesterday was his 7th complain!! we have had talks with him. he'll be 3 in mid september. he says he won't do it but then a week later it's the same story all over again. he has a minor speech delay as he's bilingual but still can say words (or even 3 words) very clearly. he's a smart kid. you can tell as soon as you meet him. he notices stuff kids his age don't. a very fast learner.
i am against hitting, but at one point i did start swatting or popping his hand when he would slap on our face when we were giving him time out or trying to explain something to him. Then my husband made me realize, that's not I should be dealing the situation i.e. spanking because he's doing it. I stopped doing that eventually too. but it's not making a difference. he's the only child so i can't really blame the older sibling for this either. we encourage to "talk polite, say please, wait patiently when asked for something because mommy/daddy are busy in something but will tend to your needs as soon as possible" in our house. his tantrums are the worse! like one of those kids in supernanny!! time outs are not working either. and believe me we are consistent! taking away his favorite toys are not working also. he cries for a while, then forgets about it and moves on to something else. or worse, retaliates! does something which he is not allowed to do around the house just to tick me off.
we have been trying to distract ourselves that this is "just a phase, and will pass soon". he has been like this ever since he started crawling. his teachers are frustrated by him (ofcourse they dont say anything, but he's the only kid in his class with terrible tantrums, blowups and to mention hitting and punching other kids because he is asked to do something by them like all the other kids!)
please please please help me !!! what else can I do to discipline this child??? :(
i love him to death, and it's hurting me to see him like this. trust me it's getting worse every year!! please tell me how can i change him?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:44 AM on Jul. 19, 2013 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by girlwithC at 1:23 PM on Jul. 19, 2013
Answer by missanc at 10:16 AM on Jul. 19, 2013
I agree with missanc above. Also, does your Husband ever talk to him about his behavior. Sometimes when the child is with you all day they become so used to the Mom telling them this & that & they stop listening all together. If someone else talks to them it can really sink in. I think your Husband should sit him down & talk to him & tell him the consequences of his actions. Then make him give time outs & take toys and privileges away. Even if he is only home at night after work then that's when he will have to deal with Daddy being upset if he acts out. Try that. It has worked for me. there was a boy in my Son's Library Toddler Play Time class when he was small that was out of control like what you described. His poor Mom was so embarrassed but just pacified him & smiled. She should have removed him from the class every time he acted out, put him in the car & went home. Instead she stayed & he ran amuck. Cont:
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:50 AM on Jul. 19, 2013
Cont: REMOVE him EVERY time after his bad behavior. Even if he kicks & screams. He needs a consequence immediately after his actions.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:54 AM on Jul. 19, 2013
Answer by BeaverHouse at 11:00 AM on Jul. 19, 2013
try changing diet- SOMETIMES this can help alot, sometimes, it does not help at all, but must follow exact for it to works- one blue pop and it is not going to work (if it works for your kid)
The Feingold Program eliminates these additives:
Answer by fiatpax at 11:16 AM on Jul. 19, 2013
small bad behavior- ignore works great as any attention is attention
as for the larger stuff like kicking hitting etc, remove him from situation the moment you see it happen- timeout, taking away good stuff- toy, outside play- whatever the childs currency is
punishing for it later on is much less effective, as a child this young will not connect the behavoir to the punishment
Answer by fiatpax at 11:19 AM on Jul. 19, 2013
Answer by 2autisticsmom at 11:11 AM on Jul. 19, 2013
Answer by Ruthmom802 at 1:09 PM on Jul. 23, 2013