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Where would you find a balance

where would you find a balance if your boy was a terrible eater. parents who do not have to go through this type of problems do not understand, but he will not try any other food than the one he eats days after days, so much monotony: bacon, pancakes, etc. etc. how would you teach a 4yo to eat soups? he sure knows how to use a spoon (likes cheerios on milk), but pushes away a bowl with anything else in it. is it a matter of a rigor at this age, or what? shaould i try making a deal with a 4 yo? forcing ot spanking? i tried many different ways. still no results. should he be hungry for 2 weeks until he reaches for whatever mom offers? i cannot let this happen (for him wait that long) so he gets what he gets. i seek improvement - moderate or harsh way? advice please

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:59 PM on Jul. 19, 2013 in Food & Drink

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  • I wouldn't buy any crap. I would stock the house only with healthy foods. That is what he would be eating if he got hungry enough. It's not like he's driving himself to the taco stand for takeout. Anything that goes into his mouth has to be brought into the house by an adult. What that adult decides to buy is up to what that adult wants that child to eat.

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 10:01 PM on Jul. 19, 2013

  • Does he like dessert?? For my son to have dessert he has to at least try everything on his plate.....

    Answer by skittles1108 at 10:04 PM on Jul. 19, 2013

  • I would not force him to eat or spank him when he does not. Children eat what is there for them to eat and if not eaten right than, eventually they will get hungry enough to eat it.

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 10:15 PM on Jul. 19, 2013

  • Being a parent isn't limited to two choices; harsh punishment or no punishment. Sometimes you have to be crafty and calm.

    If he pushes away a bowl, his meal is over. You can calmly remove him from the table, with a smile on your face. You can quit buying the "only" foods he'll eat. You can say "we have bacon on Fridays" and simply only have bacon on Fridays (just an example). You don't have to yell, you don't have to spank, you don't have to lose your cool. What you DO have to do is always remain the grown up

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 10:19 PM on Jul. 19, 2013

  • PS - He's not going to go two weeks without food. This is a power struggle but a hungry tummy almost always wins

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 10:20 PM on Jul. 19, 2013

  • It sounds like your son has found a way he can be in control of his world, and he's going to milk it for all it's worth. I agree that only bringing healthy foods into the house is a good start. Then, give him two or three choices. Let him decide what's for dinner, out of a couple of healthy options you have chosen. Does he want spaghetti, chicken and rice, or meat loaf and mashed potatoes, just as an example. Making the choice might give him enough control that it motivates him to eat. Let him help with simple cooking tasks, like stirring. Once at the table, he either eats what is served or he doesn't eat, and no dessert unless he eats without a fuss. He may try to hold out, but he won't starve himself. Believe me, I've been there, and it'll be harder on you than it is on him.

    Answer by Ballad at 11:46 PM on Jul. 19, 2013

  • At that age a LOT of kids are picky and they like what they like.
    Don't make TOO big a deal out of it, and do not punish him for it
    offer different things, maybe tell him he only has to take ONE bite and if he doesn't like it-that's okay

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 12:13 AM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • You will cook healthy meals. He will eat what you cook. Period.
    A kid doesn't have the will power to starve himself to the point where it could become dangerous.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 3:06 AM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • consider lunch at a buffet restaurant. and 4 he's not ready to carry his plate to his seat but he can point and help load it up. a buffet is a fun place to try soup, too, since they usually are in those impressive big huge "cauldron" pots.

    is soup possibly a texture thing?

    I'd offer the pancakes non stop, they're so healthy. use GOOD base for it, buckwheat, ect, and create a topping buffet of berry compotes and yogurt in a tube to decorate ... consider slowly weaning onto turkey or meat free bacon

    Answer by hibbingmom at 12:12 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

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