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How long do you allow kids over your home?

Or how long do you allow your child over their home?
Lately my dd10 has been having a friend over and for hours I do not mind it sometimes I forget they are together bc they are spending time with eachother as long as they are safe & quiet hey have at it...lol I don't mind feeding or giving snacks either.
I have one mom who checks in and asks when does she want to be picked up....it's usually not yet...lol the mom doesn't want to over stay her welcome I told her as long as we as parents communicate they girls can hang out for how long they. Sometimes it leads to spending a night sometimes I give in and sometimes I kind of want them to take a break of eachother. It all works out.

How do you ladies do it?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 1:24 PM on Jul. 20, 2013 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • No one is allowed over my house. Even though we have a single story house, I still think that being up there would be dangerous. Also, the roof is hot. Someone could get hurt.
    JulieJacobKyle

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 1:31 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • JJK, lol!

    I really don't put a time limit on as long as the kids are getting along and the parent stays in touch so I don't feel like I've found an orphan on my doorstep.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 1:34 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • it would be fine for an hour or 2 between breakfast and lunch,or lunch and dinner,but i'm not running a daycare. We were taught as kids,to have the smarts to go home and eat,not expect your friend's parent's to feed you
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 1:49 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • As long as the parent's know where their kids are, I don't really care. I'd rather have them at my house staying out of trouble than somewhere else getting into it ;)
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 2:02 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • I always give my kids a time that they have to be home or their friends have to leave. It's normally 2-3 hrs but depends what day it is and what else is going on. My boys' curfew is 9 on the weekends and during the summer. Their curfew is 8 on school days. My dd's curfew is 10 on the weekends and during the summer. Her curfew is 9 on school days. No one is allowed to have anyone over on school nights.
    tempsingl3mom

    Answer by tempsingl3mom at 2:28 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • It depends on the kid and the circumstances. Yesterday I watched a friend's kid for most of the afternoon and into the evening while she got some much needed quiet study time in. If it's just a spur of the moment thing the kid needs to go home after a couple hours.
    Rosehawk

    Answer by Rosehawk at 2:46 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • My kids curfew is 9. Unless a child is spending the night they need to go home by then. Other than that, as long as the kids are playing nicely I'm good.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 10:33 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • We only have friends over in the afternoon (on non-school days only unless they're working on a joint project) and when the parents drop them off and ask when they should come and collect them I usually say 6-7ish. I've never had anyone take advantage and leave them longer. Likewise, when mine go to their friends, the othe parents usually apply the same times.


    goldpandora

    Answer by goldpandora at 5:00 AM on Jul. 21, 2013

  • About like you do. Sounds fine the way you're handling it. ; )
    AubreyRed

    Answer by AubreyRed at 9:01 PM on Aug. 3, 2013

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