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please help me !!

i have two step children one a little boy 4 && a girl 6 i had some problems with the 4 year old but i looked into it && tried everything it said to do && It worked wonders :) but over summer break they where sent to thier mothers && let them watch "Mama" (A Scary Movie) when she came home she stayed up for 3 && a half days no one moment of sleep!! while thier mother stays up all night && sleeps all day so the bed schedule i did have them on (feed by 6pm bath by 7pm teeth brushed By 8:20 && asleep by 9) That is no longer the case everything is the same i lay them down do everything the same by the 6 year old does fall asleep until 1-4 in the morning shes up at 7 && no shit running wild with her brother all day their father works 3 shift i work 2nd shift im wore out i dont get no sleep at all nothing i did with the 4 year old is working she doesnt care how many times you whoop her butt it doesnt matter she is still up all night

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Asked by OneWoreOutWomen at 3:54 PM on Jul. 20, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • "she doesnt care how many times you whoop her butt"

    I had some sympathy for you until I read that.

    She's four years old. Her schedule has been significantly disrupted. She's out of sorts, frightened terribly by something she shouldn't have seen and CANNOT process and needs to have her schedule regulated and your solution is to whip her.

    As with any schedule issue with small children, time and consistency are key. You're going to have to calmly keep doing what you've been doing by maintaining her schedule but you also need to help her with her fear. The adrenaline surging through her from that will keep her off schedule until you address it.

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 3:57 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • Well, spanking isn't going to make her able to sleep.

    It sounds like their mother had no schedule whatsoever, so they ended up with a schedule they got into on their own, and hers happens to be staying up all night. Instead of spanking her (which, again, for this, will change nothing), you need to work with her to get her back on a normal schedule. No naps during the day for a while, and wear her out with physical activities all day - outside running, riding bikes, swinging in swings, etc. Sit with her in the dark in her room, with no TV, radio, etc. and rub her back or play with her hair or whatever until she falls asleep.

    It'll take time, just like it took time for her to get on this schedule. But you can be exhausted with her on a screwed up schedule with no end in sight, or exhausted knowing that in a few days/weeks, things will be back to normal. Up to you.

    Answer by wendythewriter at 3:59 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • All those &&'s... your post is too annoying to read all the way through.

    Answer by anestheticsex at 4:00 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • ugh

    Answer by feralxat at 4:01 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • There is no need to be "whooping" anyone's butt. Unless of course it's her mother's butt. Your hubby needs to bring it into the courts. That kind of environment is not good for them and he may be able to get sole custody. Or force her into supervised visitation. Don't blame the child for what the mother did to them. you'll just have to do your best to get them back on schedule. It will take time. Try taking them to the park or something during the day so they will be tired. Help her work through her fears too because until she can get over that, you are going to have a tough time.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 4:04 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • Sorry, she's six years old. Misread the ages in question. My response still stands

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 4:04 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • Why not try to direct their energy to sometng positive yet draining, like swimming? "Whooping their butts" isn't creating any positive pay offs for them.

    I don't have to share custody of my kids, but know many parents that do and they all have a hard time getting their kids back on schedule when they come home from the other parent's home. I've never known any of them to try whooping their kid's butts to get them back on schedule.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 4:08 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • I have no words for your handling of this. BTW their father should be taking some of their carwe off of your shoulders.

    Answer by Dardenella at 4:18 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • "Whoop her butt"? You're bitching about the mother and yet your beating the child's ass because she's not sleeping??? I wonder which will cause the child more harm? Watching a scary movie or getting their "butt whooped" for not sleeping?

    Answer by Nos4 at 4:18 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

  • Wow. Yikes.

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 4:43 PM on Jul. 20, 2013

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