I was watching an episode of "beyond scared straight" where juvenile offenders are taken into a prison to show them what jail is like. One kid was talking and I was appalled at the utter lack of respect this kid showed his mother.
The kid is 14 years old and according to his mom he has spit on her, slapped her, pulled her hair, stolen from her, forces her to buy him cigarettes and alcohol or he beats on her and he has even pulled a knife on her. I made the comment to a friend of mine that if my 14 yr old (I don't have one yet my kids are still little) but if I had a 14 yr old and he spit on me or slapped me that I would knock him on his butt. How does a 14 yr old 'force' his parents to buy him smokes and booze? That's totally uncalled for, if he beats her up then what is she doing to stop this behavior?
My friend was shocked at my reaction and told me that you never ever ever hit your child no matter what. I asked her, so what if your 14 yr old son is holding you down and punching you? You are supposed to just take it?
I don't believe in beating the snot out of your kids but I do spank mine when they act up. I don't break bones or leave bruises but my kids know who is boss and it ain't them. I think a lot of the trouble with teens today is that the law says parents can't punish their kids when they act up and the kids know this. So they run the streets and treat parents like dogs and then when the parents get tough the kids call CPS and claim child abuse.
Where do you draw the line? I am not saying beat your kids till they are black and blue but you can't just stick your head in the sand and ignore the behavior. Kids need authority and strict parents that follow through with their threats of punishment whether its a kick in the pants or loss of privileges. Am I totally off on this? How can so many people blame the parents for kids bad behavior and then tell the parents that they can't discipline their children? It doesn't make sense to me.
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