Its hard for me to say no...becuase I have only been dating this guy for 3 months and they have a really great mom, so is it necessary that I am their "mom?"
The bio mom tells them I am their step mom...but to be honest I am not ready for that title, so I am thinking of telling the kids that IF or WHEN your dad and I get married, then I would be your step mom. The kids are 4 and 6 however, so will they even understand this?
For now I just tell them to call me by my first name, and they do, but they also say Im their auntie, they say im their mom, they say im their babysitter, the list goes on when they are trying to explain to people who I am.
I then speak up and explain I am their dad's girlfriend who loves and cares about them and their dad and mom very much.
So do I play the mom card for now or is it too soon? Or shall I be more of a friend to them...
Significant other says, be their mom please they need a mother figure around here, so I do...I cook, clean, do thier laundry, advise them, watch them, teach them, play with them, discipline them (lightly), and tell them yes or no...I take charge so I am a friend...yet also strict in some ways only since I am the adult obviously
Answer by Ballad at 5:47 PM on Jul. 24, 2013
Answer by Ginger0104 at 5:26 PM on Jul. 24, 2013
Answer by wendythewriter at 5:28 PM on Jul. 24, 2013
3 MONTHS?! That is way too soon for kids that age to meet a parent's bf or gf. They need to see less of you now. You aren't ready for the title of stepmom & they sound like they are confused by all of this. Please step back- they already have a mom.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 5:28 PM on Jul. 24, 2013
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 5:28 PM on Jul. 24, 2013
Answer by wendythewriter at 5:29 PM on Jul. 24, 2013