So all day today DH is pouting, walking round with this ridiculous attitude because dd wasn't listening to him. So he goes to the computer room and shuts himself inside, I feel like once again, I am by myself because he is acting like a big 'ol fucking baby.
Our dd was acting like a typical 4 yr old. There are days she is really good, other days not so good, other days I find myself wanting to bang my head into the brick building. Well today was the brick building day, especially for dh. He had today off, so I slept in. When she got up, I could tell it was gonna be one of those days. So I grinned and turned over went back to sleep. Next thing I hear is him yelling at her to listen to him, and of course she did not, he threatens her that she will come inside and spend the rest of the day in her room. Mind you this is at about 11:30 am. I am bed thinking yeah right, that'll happen, like he will want to fight her and yell at her to stay in her room all day. Best the luck with that honey! And if he would have followed through with that threat, I suddenly had a doctors appt I forgot about.
So the day goes on, the fucking thorn is still in his ass, and we were out back, and he was cleaning out the wooden thing we keep our potatoes in. Somehow water got in there and they went bad, and my main suspect is our 4 yr old. lol. Well she was riding her bike, he tells her to keep away from it, do not touch (his mom got it years ago before she died). And he said if she didn't listen. and and she messed with it anyway, her bike would go bye bye. I look at him and ask him really?? Isn't that a little much?? (dd was in the house going pee when I asked that) When someone says "bye bye" I take it too mean gone right? No longer there? He gets into a huff, and says she better start listening him, and not ignoring him. I again am astonished, I tell him this is what I deal with with all the time, welcome to parenthood! What would taking her bike accomplish? Not a damn thing. He says by taking the bike as punishment, it would teach her to listen to him, and he wouldn't give back to her. Ya kinda like telling her that every time she get into stuff that is not hers, he would just spank her, no warning. What would that accomplish? Just her being afraid of him everytime he comes near her. She wouldn't put 2 and 2 together! She is 4!!
If she misbehaving, ok so tell her she cannot ride her bike or whatever. But shouldn't the crime equal the punishment so to speak? But that still doesn't mean for him to make permanent. To me something like that would be like getting grounded. We all got grounded at some point when we were kids, to our rooms, or the phone when you are a teen, but you still would get the privilege back and would be able to go back outside, or use the phone again! But she is 4, so I do not know if she would understand for the long term why she cannot ride her bike.
I think I am seeing how his dad raised him, and I see he may have been quite the asshole, but he tells me he is nothing like his dad. Well I beg to differ. He is NOT abusive to her, doesn't hit her or nothing like that ladies, just a lot of frustration on his part.
So am I wrong on this? I would hate it if I was, because then I would have to go back and admit I was wrong, and I have already did that last year and I only allow myself 2 time every other year or so. And I would hate it he fainted and hit his thorn that was in his ass causing it to go further up in his ass.
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