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My one year old has a temper. like every baby i know he screams and throws himself around when mad but this one actually throws things in his fits (shoes toys). is this nornmal

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khint

Asked by khint at 1:52 PM on Jul. 27, 2013 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • It is normal for them to have strong feelings & to believe that what they think & how they feel matters. It's also normal for them to feel frustrated. And it's normal for them to get angry when they feel threatening (or psychologically overwhelming) feelings such as powerlessness, helplessness, grief or loss. Many babies experience those feelings routinely when they're redirected from things, or when things are taken away from them. They experience themselves as unable to direct their world & unable to control things that matter to them, and they experience US as not caring about what they want (i.e., going ahead with our agenda in spite of how they feel about it!)
    This explains some of the force of their feelings.
    They also have no reason to assume that their feelings are "wrong" or "shouldn't" be expressed.
    You have an authentic, feeling human being on your hands.
    girlwithC

    Answer by girlwithC at 2:02 PM on Jul. 27, 2013

  • Yes, either he is hungry, thirsty, tired, uncomfortable or bored. Address the issue then redirect (dray his attention to something else).
    ILovemyPaulie

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 2:15 PM on Jul. 27, 2013

  • dray= draw. Sorry, spelling.
    ILovemyPaulie

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 2:16 PM on Jul. 27, 2013

  • sounds normal!
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 2:20 PM on Jul. 27, 2013

  • Try to redirect the baby to a more positive activity when he starts to get upset. ou can also tell him firmly not to throw things, and give him a one-minute time out, even if he won't really understand it at this point. You want to teach him early that throwing toys won't get him what he wants.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 2:28 PM on Jul. 27, 2013

  • Is it normal? Yes. Is it acceptable? No. The Love and Logic approach to this (Jim Fay and Foster Cline) would be to SING "Uh oh.." while smiling and remove him to his room. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1LrA9pabHU4 This is another one for toddlers.    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=drh66-WUJCw They have zillions of clips on youtube on addition to books, cd's & dvd's. The basic premise of Love and Logic is to set limits and boundaries early on in a loving way and to teach children by natural consequences rather than parent-imposed consequences. I have been watching these a lot lately. The guy's hysterical! :)

    doodlebopfan

    Answer by doodlebopfan at 2:51 PM on Jul. 27, 2013

  • agree, redirect best at this age
    ignoring is good, but one years old pretty young for the ignore
    but you can start to show little reaction to his fits while you redirect
    attention is attention even if negative- IF he is throwing fit to get your attention
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 8:48 PM on Jul. 27, 2013

  • yes, it's normal. I would ignore this behavior and of course don't encourage this. Attention is attention. try to do other stuff to derail that behavior. good luck
    Sillylins

    Answer by Sillylins at 3:40 PM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • It sounds like he is feeling a bit out of control. Temper tantrums are normal at this age, but throwing things are not. Every child has a unique personality, just as every person does. Some have tempers and handle frustrations with tantrums. Make sure he has a daily routine. Just like you like to know what happens next, so does he. If you have a good routine every day, he can feel more in control of his world. Next, let him have some control over his world. Can he make some choices, like what's for snack? Or what book you read? If he has some choices, even at this age, he feels more in control of his world. Also, look at the things that get him so frustrated and try to redirect him before it gets to that point. Also, lead by example. How do the other people in his world handle frustrations? They are all eyes and ears. How do you think he has learned so much already. And finally, when all else fails, go for a walk.
    robyn15

    Answer by robyn15 at 5:38 PM on Sep. 18, 2013

  • Yes
    escuchar

    Answer by escuchar at 12:16 AM on Mar. 11, 2014

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