My boyfriend had a business partner at a jewelry stor before he opened his own watch repair shop. We just found out last night that the former partner's oldest of two daughters hung herself yesterday. She was 28. We have no idea what we can say or do at a time like this. We want to be there for the partner, who is a friend, but what can we do? The tragedy happened in another state, so he isn't in town now. Should we send flowers? A card--but what could possibly be said in a card about something like this?
I found this article and thought it was good advice.
Bereaved people really don't grasp what people say during the early stages of grief. They are usually bewildered, in a haze of grief and loss. They are also battling with the questions left unanswered.
The best thing is to say very little but be there for them. Bereaved people like to talk to someone who will listen. Reacting to the death of someone who is a friend can be more about our reaction, our anxiety and inability to grasp the enormity of it as experienced by someone else.
Just say that you are saddened by the persons death and give them a hug. That's all you need to do. If they wish to talk later just be there to listen. Do not counsel, give advise, give reasons or anything else. It is all about the bereaved person, not you!
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