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Should I try to make it work?

im in a bind my husband left me and took my kids. And now when Im trying to fight to get them back, he wants to say im sorry for leaving you the way I did, and I want this marriage to work out for the kids. but theres a problem he has put a safety plan on me. I really want to believe him when he says I want us to work but he hasn't proven to me that he wants us to work. what should I do?

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Jbeas0712

Asked by Jbeas0712 at 12:56 AM on Jul. 31, 2013 in Relationships

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Answers (19)
  • What's a safety plan?
    PMSMom10

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 12:59 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • I have to repeat the question: What is a safety plan? Never heard of it.

    Counseling would be a requirement.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 1:03 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • A safety plan is where I cant see my kids or make any contact with them for 30 days. Or it can be for 90 days. and its where the person that's signs it give their right up to cps
    Jbeas0712

    Comment by Jbeas0712 (original poster) at 1:03 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • Why would he be doing this? Has there been abuse? Does he have proof that you are some kind of danger to the children?

    Do you have an attorney? If not, GET ONE. First thing tomorrow.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 1:05 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • Were you abusive to your kids or husband for him to take your kids and leave, as well as a safety plan?
    I'm confused why he's controlling everything.
    PMSMom10

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 1:06 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • safety plan?
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 1:12 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • Crickets.......

    Are you abusive OP?
    PMSMom10

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 1:13 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • Cps doesn't just get involved for no reason.
    Want to tell us the rest of the story?
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 1:13 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • no I have never abused my kids he just said that I did theres no proof but theres drugs in that home, and I don't understand why that cps put the safety plan on me with out even investigating me first but we have to go to a family meeting. But I am 23 yrs old. I just don't know what to do because we have me married for 5 yrs, and I love him with all my heart even after this but I just don't know if I can ever trust him again, and I don't know what to do.
    Jbeas0712

    Comment by Jbeas0712 (original poster) at 1:16 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

  • he has abused my son and I do have proof so I honestly don't know what to do. PLease help me!!!!
    Jbeas0712

    Comment by Jbeas0712 (original poster) at 1:22 AM on Jul. 31, 2013

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