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How do I deal with my sexually active teen daughter?

My daughter is sixteen and is driving me crazy. My husband and I have had tons of talks with her about her self value, and staying pure but she has become really promiscuous in the last few months. She has met an older guy, and they have become sexually active. Even though I have begged her not to, she won't listen to me. I have no idea what i can do? Help?

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allison.brooke

Asked by allison.brooke at 12:28 PM on Aug. 1, 2013 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Just to update, I took her to the doctor and she is now on the pill. We invited her boyfriend over for a dinner so we could get to know him better, she threw a fit about it at first because she said we were just going to hate him more. They are still seeing each other but, I told her I would not allow her to go in his car with him, if they wanted to hang out it would be when either myself or her father are home and she will stay in the living room.
    I don't know what else i could do, hopefully it won't continue.
    allison.brooke

    Comment by allison.brooke (original poster) at 9:36 PM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • Sounds like someone is not being a good influence on her while she's gone or no parent control. Keep her home til she finds better friends.
    morebee7

    Answer by morebee7 at 11:02 PM on Aug. 8, 2013

  • I was a teen once and I have a 16 yr old now. If they want to have sex they will find a time and a place, your job is to keep the lines of communication open, educate her and make sure they are being protected. None of us want our teens to have sex but if and when they do we have to guide them and accept their decision.
    GarysWife1991

    Answer by GarysWife1991 at 5:10 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • Ummm ... lock her in a very tall tower, and cut her hair.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 2:32 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • I would threat the guy.
    IHasCupquake

    Answer by IHasCupquake at 8:59 PM on Aug. 1, 2013

  • It just makes me sick to think about .. I know I can't stop her from growing up, but I feel like she did it partially to spite me. I know all I can do is educate and provide birth control but I also don't want her to feel as if im condoning this behavior.
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    Let her know you don't LIKE that she is doing it and you wish she would wait, but you ultimately want her to be smart and SAFE about it. You may not be happy about it- but the LAST thing you want is for her to end up pregnant or with a disease or something.
    It doesn't matter if she did it to spite you (which I doubt) or not
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 4:08 PM on Aug. 1, 2013

  • She met him when she was fifteen, and he was already seventeen. She just turned sixteen in July. And, yes she could have. I remember thinking like that at times when I was a teen.
    allison.brooke

    Comment by allison.brooke (original poster) at 3:26 PM on Aug. 1, 2013

  • BIRTH CONTROL.
    KristiS11384

    Answer by KristiS11384 at 3:01 PM on Aug. 1, 2013

  • She did it to spite you?
    You really think she thought, " hmm you know whatll piss my mom off? Me fucking!"
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 2:48 PM on Aug. 1, 2013

  • Wait. The "older guy" is 17? Okay, so I guess he's older, technically, but that changes the entire dynamic of your question.

    And pressing charges is silly.
    Mrs_Prissy

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 2:34 PM on Aug. 1, 2013

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