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Pick ups and drop offs

My sons father still is texting and calling me saying he wants to come to my house to do drop offs and pick ups even though the co states the police station. I had it changed to police station for multiple reasons should I give in to him or follow the co?

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AAP1988

Asked by AAP1988 at 10:30 AM on Aug. 2, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • I hope you both can work something out so the child can benefit from being with both parents.
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 10:35 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • no one cares about your personality disorder.

    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 10:39 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • If the court order says police station, then stick with police station. Straying outside the court order makes it less likely for the judge to enforce that clause later, if it becomes necessary.

    What reason does he give for wanting to do this? Is it closer or otherwise more convenient? If he has what could be considered a legitimate reason, you might consider getting the order changed to allow him to pick up and drop off at your house but stipulating that there has to be a witness present to the exchange - maybe a friend or relative of yours or a third party that isn't connected to either of you so there's no claim of bias later if he says or does something that gets you back into court.
    wendythewriter

    Answer by wendythewriter at 10:41 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • The drop off location used to be at my house until he started verbally abusing me and not being on time for drop offs or pick ups.
    AAP1988

    Comment by AAP1988 (original poster) at 10:56 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • How is his relationship with the child?
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 11:00 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • virginia- they have a relationship but not a super close one.
    AAP1988

    Comment by AAP1988 (original poster) at 11:06 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • But they do have a relationship and can build a closer one if they are given the chance to be together. Hopefully something can be worked out so they can make this happen. ;-)
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 11:07 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • continue the police station
    court ordered this for a reason
    he abused you and with that comes him trying to make you do things that you are not comfortable with

    police station

    i think i gave same advice to same situation a week ago
    same answer as last time
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 11:09 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • keep police station as neutral pick up drop /off place

     


    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 8:36 AM on Jul. 16, 2013



    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 11:10 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

  • Mrs_Prissy

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 11:11 AM on Aug. 2, 2013

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