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What does "i don't like to label things" mean? relationship-wise

we're great friends. sex. dating in every sense of the word except for the word. he says he doesn't like labels when i bring up what we're doing. is this guy speak for "i'm not interested"?

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:16 AM on Aug. 3, 2013 in Relationships

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  • It's guy speak for, "I like having sex with you and you're a friend but that's as far as it's gonna go."

    Answer by gdiamante at 12:21 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

  • Move on your just easy sex for him.

    Answer by CEWarsop at 12:27 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

  • Could be. But if he's really "there" with you & you're "dating in every sense of the word" & sharing/part of each other's life, it could just be sincere. He feels an aversion to labeling things, or "deciding" what it is.
    I was just listening to the performance of "Something" that George Harrison's friends performed at the memorial concert they gave for him. It's a song written by a man who (very obviously) is totally into the woman in the song. "Something in the way she moves attracts me like no other lover." Etc.
    But the bridge says: "You're asking me will my love grow? I don't know, I don't know! Stick around and it may show....I don't know, I don't know!"
    It used to seem inconsistent to me. Like, why is he wishy-washy?
    But the person obviously is ardent & he's "right there" in the relationship with her. He's just in the moment, not labeling or predicting, and not projecting.
    It doesn't (have to) mean he's hedging his bets.

    Answer by girlwithC at 12:32 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

  • thank you for that POV girlwithC

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 12:34 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

  • It sounds like the guy may be attracted to you but afraid of commitment.

    Answer by Ballad at 1:23 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

  • Check out the there's a lot of good insight

    Answer by CEWarsop at 1:28 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

  • i'll check it our right now. thanks for the link!

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:52 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

  • Here's how this conversation goes:
    "Do you want to be with only me?"
    If yes: fantastic
    If No: hit the road.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 2:11 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

  • It could mean he simply needs time to see where the relationship goes and has a less formal attitude about it. See what develops and keep communicating. GL

    Answer by silverthreads at 5:46 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

  • That means he does not want a commitment.    He does not want a "girlfriend" "wife".   

    So if you want a commitment. He wont give it to you.


    Answer by louise2 at 7:14 AM on Aug. 3, 2013

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