I had given a previous post about my sister didn't want to do my mother's funeral as she wanted it to be... you can look at my questions for further information.
Anyway... it has been nine months since my mother passed away and I thought I would give an update.
The day of the funeral for my mother was a very tense one indeed. You could just feel the tension in the room at the funeral home. You could have cut it with a knife. Very little was said between me and my sister... that was the sad part. I was talked about to my other family members by my sister (not surprised). I really think a part of me expected that. I will never forget it. My sister barely spoke to me, her husband was very nice. Her daughter.. she didn't even speak to me. That's okay, I'm over that now.
I was left to clean out my mother's house by myself and nobody to help go through all that stuff. A friend of my mother's helped me through my feeling that I had with my sister, and I will be forever grateful to her. My sister made another trip to tell me what else she wanted out of the house.She couldn't take it all at one time. She wanted the material things and I wanted the things that were associated with the memories thought the years. That's just me. My mother told me before she died that she wanted me to have the centerpiece that was on the dining room table that my father had given her for the 27th wedding anniversary the year before he died. I took it... I heard, "you mean to tell me that you wanted that ugly thing?" If this was how she felt about it, why did she want it so bad? My sister literally took the dining room table that was sitting in her house without my mother's permission. She was so angry about that. I will never forget it. I got it put up for now, I know that I have something my dad had given her.
I have seen her four times since the funeral. Twice to get stuff from the house, once for my birthday and one time she was passing through and she stopped by and took me to lunch. The circumstances around that were weird in my opinion, she didn't elaborate on that one. That was in April. It's now August and she never calls me. She won't answer my calls or texts. Of course I told my mother long before she died that when something happened to her that the family would fall apart. I know how bad that sounds.But I wasn't wrong. Me and my daughter both knew it would happen.
My aunt tells me I did nothing wrong, but the rest of the family feels differently. So why do I feel so bad? It hurts when you own family turns against you because of something other family members did. I'm not going into details, just fact that my son took some things out of her house and I didn't know about it. He was over the age of 18 and I was not responsible for his actions. I taught him better than that. I feel bad about it, don't get me wrong. I didn't know until it was too late. I wish I could change things, but I can't. Police reports were filed and that is all I can do.
Do you think our family will ever be together again, I don't. I think it is beyond repair. I feel I did nothing wrong and my sister blames everything on me. Some things just don't change. I don't think she will either. She told me once that she holds onto grudges. I don't. Life's too short to hold grudges about everything. It only takes away happiness from within. What do you think?
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