My ex is ordered to pay child support, but doesn't pay. He owes roughly $25K, and I just got notice for a court date next month for him to be held in contempt (my kids get medicaid right now, so the state files).
The problem I have right now is that the date and time of the hearing, I may not have anyone who can watch my kids - which means they'll have to go with me. I'm hoping to find someone, but if not, I don't have a choice. Which brings me to my question.
There's no way to avoid telling them why we're there. Even if I don't say it, the judge and the lawyers will. So I feel I need to explain it to them (only if I have to take them), but at what point do I cross the line from explaining facts to trashing him? I would limit it to explaining that he's ordered to pay and doesn't, and that the judge has to decide to punish him or not (which always results in jail for him, mainly because he doesn't show), and how much he owes (only if they ask for that). I won't be telling them my own opinions about how he's an asshole, and he doesn't care about anyone but himself and all that.
Am I just explaining facts by explaining what I described, or is it bordering on trashing him - and if it is bordering on trashing him, then how do I explain the situation without trashing him, and without lying to them?
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