I have always been very close with my mom, but it is to the point to where it is hard to be around her, and hard to trust her to be alonbe around my kids..... When I am around her it feels like I am babysitting a teenager !
When I was growing up she was the "all american mom" ... She stayed at home, took care of the house and did all kinds of stuff with me and my brother ... her idea of going out was going out of town to the big grocery store and then having lunch overlooking the river ( she always said that, that was her most favorite thing to do and of course I never understood the joy of grocery shopping alone until I became a mom ) ...
I mean I understand that now that my brother and I are grown with kids of our own, that she should be able to do what she wants ...But it is out of hand that I am scared something will actually happen to her.
It started about 5 years ago ( when I was pregnant with her second grandchild) ... she got a boyfriend ( while still married and living with my dad ) ... She knew the guy from when she was a kid, but he had just got out of jail, was known to do drugs and lived wherever he could find.
My mom tried to hide him from my dad but then tried to say it didnt matter because my dad was too busy working or doing other things... this went on - off & on for these last 5 years.
NOW in the past 6 months or so it has gotten out of hand, she did stop talking to him but now she is finding men online.... she has been with several men, going to meet them whereever they want and obviously doing "whatever" with them .... she talks about it like it is no big deal. She did leave my dad a few weeks ago ( moved into my grandmas spare bedroom) , but is leading him on to think she will come back - he has been making special dates with her, even calling me so I can explain how to make certain foods for her ... he has no idea what she is doing.
It is not just the men but that is a big part of it........ She goes out every weekend, she constantly is texting- even when driving ( which is why it old her i dont want my kids in the vehicle with her )... even at my daughters birthday last week in all of the photos, my mom is in the background of all of them on her phone !
She even is talking like a teen and dressing like a teen !
I dont know what to do, anyone that has tried to talk to her she gets mad and refuses to believe that anything is wrong ......
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