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Can a father claim neglect if mother is late picking up child for him to go to work during a divorce?

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Asked by lifer31 at 9:10 AM on Aug. 10, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • Not sure that this falls under neglect. However, the mother should respect that the father has to be at work on time and plan her travel to ensure that she isn't late.

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 9:11 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 9:15 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • he can claim it
    he can shout it from the roof tops
    he can bring it up in court....then judge will dismiss this 'claim', will scold him for wasting the courts time, or just roll eyes and get back to the business of deciding child/children's best interest

    eanyone can be late once in a while
    if someone was late once for pickup...guess what life happens

    if he is threatening to bring this up in a court hearing- let him
    if this is all he "has: on you, he will not look good in the judge's eyes
    sounds like an ugly divorce- be careful he will bring up more silly petty stuff. just keep your head on straight and let him hang himself on stuff that does not matter in the least with the court...but watch your back

    Answer by fiatpax at 9:29 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • It might be considered rude and even disrespectful of him and his time, but it's not neglect. If it's habitual, he can bring it up in court, and *possibly* get a judge to get on Mom about being on time, but even that's not all that likely. He'd probably have to have a lot of other stuff, too, such as Mom being late to drop the kid off, or Mom dropping the kid off on him all the time, etc.

    Answer by wendythewriter at 9:42 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • LOL - sounds as if he hasn't really understood the notion that the neglect must concern the child and not him. He thinks that she's neglectful of him because she didn't turn up on time! Poor dear!

    Answer by goldpandora at 9:48 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • Is she late all the time? And is he in danger of losing his job? If so, I'd have a talk with mom on how it is not in the childs best interest for dad to be unemployed, and if it continued, I'd find a reliable baby sitter and petition the court to have mom pay for it. Both parents should have established times and routines so the child feels safe and secure.

    Answer by Nimue930 at 10:16 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • I doubt that would be considered neglect, but it would serve everyone best to be on time. I'm guessing you want him to be on time with pick up and drop off.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 10:33 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • if mother is late often
    he can ask court for a drop off/pick up place that is neutral
    police stations often are used, but can be some kind of children's agency (some you have to pay for)
    this way the parent WILL be on time as others as 'watching'
    this is usually used when one adult is abusive to the other

    once being late- life happens
    often late- rude and disrespectful to the other adult
    more issues than this- then court can assign a neutral place for custody transfers

    good luck
    messy divorces with custody issues suck
    but even in worst divorces it USUALLY gets better

    * watch your back and journal everything (sometimes phone conversations are not best as there is no record of conversations, emails/texts when simple time drop offs and such best, as then there is a record of this

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:43 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • I dont think so

    Answer by smiley745 at 10:44 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

  • And she was never heard from again......


    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 10:48 AM on Aug. 10, 2013

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