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I have the most deadbeat child father, it took him a year to let his father know about our child and I doubt the mother knows. What bothers me is that he breaks his back for one out of 4 kids (I only have one) and that's not fair. I am feeling very resentful against him because my child didn't ask for this nor does she deserve it. He doesn't even try at all.. Honestly it upsets me to the fullest to the point I want to hit him where it really hurts.. I already did the paperwork for child support (I did it in my area) but they transferred the case to where he lives. ITS TAKING FOREVER, I am really thinking about doing some damage, something that makes me feel better. Maybe I should blame myself for this for picking such a douche, He didn't show me he was until I had her. Sad part she was born at 28 weeks, 1 pound 14 ounces and he only seen her a number of 4 maybe 5 times
How do I deal with the bottled up anger?
Answer by Dardenella at 12:57 AM on Aug. 12, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 1:12 AM on Aug. 12, 2013
Just remember that, as sad as it sounds, you cannot make him love his child. My ex left over 12 years ago. He has had no contact with one of our kids, and the one he supposedly has a relation ship with, is pretty pathetic. He never calls, emails, or writes letters. He never sends presents or even cards for birthdays or Christmas. My son would visit him for one month in the summer, and my ex would continue to work while he was there, and my son said they never did anything special. ( you see your son for one month a year, and you can't take some vacation time?) My son is autistic, and he refused to help pay for his therapy.I ended up paying for all of it. My theory is that he wishes he never was with me, so he ignores our kids to delude himself into rewriting the past.
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